Over this last year, I have been on a path of self discovery which has led me to confront some truths and fears about myself, my past and how it affects my future I like most of us are not without fault. I have been very unapologetic about my life choices whether if they were progressive or regressive they have all brought exactly where I am right now in life.
And even though i try to live without regrets there is some pain and confusion in my past that I have held on too especially the things I have done to others. I am not a hateful or even bad person but i was always told that path to hell was paved with good intentions. So, now I am learning to forgive myself and let it go.. I love to read and I was reading this article but Dr. Phil on how forgiving yourself leads to your best life and he even offers steps, so I decided to share them with you ...
Step One: Reopen your heart and mind again.When you are faced with terrible pain, your heart and mind slam shut. Opening yourself up again is a choice in terms of how you contextualize what happened to you. It allows you to say, "I am willing to consider that there is another way to adjust."
Step Two: Choose to love yourself again.Guilt is a wastebasket term that we use to cover everything negative and bad. One defining factor of guilt is that we commit the ultimate betrayal: abandoning ourselves. If you can't love yourself, you won't be able to heal yourself.
Step Three: Confront and demystify your guilt.Most people have the misconception that our depth of grief reflects the level of love for the person we've lost. It's not a betrayal of your loved one to go past the pain and deal with it in a different way. Demystifying the guilt means understanding the fear.
Step Four: Give yourself permission to heal.Part of forgiving yourself is understanding that you don't have to be punished. Give yourself permission to let go of the pain. If you have a wounded heart, you can't give good and pure love to anyone else.
Step Five: Actively create new relationships.If you've been unable to forgive yourself, it's possible that you've been holding yourself up to unrealistic expectations. You need to decide whether you want to continue living in pain. Once you've made that decision, you need to create a new relationship with yourself.
And even though i try to live without regrets there is some pain and confusion in my past that I have held on too especially the things I have done to others. I am not a hateful or even bad person but i was always told that path to hell was paved with good intentions. So, now I am learning to forgive myself and let it go.. I love to read and I was reading this article but Dr. Phil on how forgiving yourself leads to your best life and he even offers steps, so I decided to share them with you ...
Step One: Reopen your heart and mind again.When you are faced with terrible pain, your heart and mind slam shut. Opening yourself up again is a choice in terms of how you contextualize what happened to you. It allows you to say, "I am willing to consider that there is another way to adjust."
Step Two: Choose to love yourself again.Guilt is a wastebasket term that we use to cover everything negative and bad. One defining factor of guilt is that we commit the ultimate betrayal: abandoning ourselves. If you can't love yourself, you won't be able to heal yourself.
Step Three: Confront and demystify your guilt.Most people have the misconception that our depth of grief reflects the level of love for the person we've lost. It's not a betrayal of your loved one to go past the pain and deal with it in a different way. Demystifying the guilt means understanding the fear.
Step Four: Give yourself permission to heal.Part of forgiving yourself is understanding that you don't have to be punished. Give yourself permission to let go of the pain. If you have a wounded heart, you can't give good and pure love to anyone else.
Step Five: Actively create new relationships.If you've been unable to forgive yourself, it's possible that you've been holding yourself up to unrealistic expectations. You need to decide whether you want to continue living in pain. Once you've made that decision, you need to create a new relationship with yourself.
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