Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

The more I grow each day, I have started to realize that even in my own family that we have “Generational Curses” and sometimes not breaking those curses is what hinders us from living out our purpose. I mean when I look at my own immediate family, my parents where hard workers they keep a steady job even if they don’t like it for maybe five or ten years.   My sister and my brother are the same way but me I am different I get restless and when I get restless then I switch up occupation with my main goal to counseling and owning my own business stay in the front of my mind. I am pretty sure that if you really take time out to evaluate your family then you will notice a few generational curses too, it could as simple as marrying early or something like alcoholism every family has a few. What I am going to touch on today is how to combat those curses and create new trends for the generation behind you. 1.         Research It a.   ...

Doubting yourself This is one of the self destructive things that you can do to yourself because when you doubt yourself whatever it is that you want out of life will never happen because you don’t have the faith needed to get it don. Negative thinking Negativity is poison and it poison everything and everyone around you. So, you have to be caution on who you allow into your life and the thoughts you allow into your mind. Fear of failure The only thing that beats a failure is a TRY, my dad told me that like every day when I was growing up and now I fully understand what it means, that failure is not a destination it is a learning point so there is no need to be afraid of more information because it will make you better in the end Destructive Relationships One of the hardest things for people including myself is to pull away when people are sucking the life from us and eventually it w...

I was watching a sermon by T.D Jakes about a month ago on how in order for us to live out the calling that GOD has placed on our lives that we have to let go of some the baggage that's holding us back. From that sermon I picked up on 4 essential bags that I think that majority of people are holding on to but need to LET GO ... 1. SIN : Whether they be past sins or present sins, we all have sinned and fallen short but we can't allow ourselves to become slaves to those past mistakes. Ask forgiveness from your higher power, ask forgiveness of the people that you may have hurt and lastly forgive yourself. 2. GUILT: This one bag alone can strangle  the life out of you if you let it. We all at one point or another pick up the guilt bag,  the things that you wish you hadn't done or said but you did anyway. I carried my guilt with me and through life kept putting more into it until one day it almost took me out. That's when I decided to get rid of this bag, we are not pe...

There are only two true emotions that is LOVE and FEAR. Anger is manifestation of Fear. I have compile for you a short list of ways to help you avoid getting ANGRY ... 1. " Call it what it is?" - If you feel your rage rising inside of you, if something or someone strikes the wrong nerve, then "SAY IT", if you are angry then say you are angry. 2. "Don't wait INHALE" -  When you begin to feel irritated then take a deep in, allow your frustrations, worries, and anger to be released during the exhale. 3 ."Note To Self" - - Today is a great day, I am loves and all is GREAT in my world",  this phrased is etched in my mirror and into my brain. Anytime you begin to feel angry take your mind to be a better place., remember a funny moment or a great memory. 4. "Smile" - Replacing the fear with love will instantly put you back in good spirits. Smiles normally do it for me especially when they come from my niece, but when eve...

I overheard some people the other day talking about Lyfe's song "Statistics" and basically they was saying that he was talking about some craziness and this to me just solidified in my mind the fact that some women out here a truly delusional or in deep denial because if you take the time and listen to the song then you will know that it's nothing but the truth.  So, I decided to break down just the rules of this song, so that you can really understand. RULE #1: DON'T BE A BOOTY CALL: “IF HE DON'T RESPECT YOU, THEN HE WILL FORGET YOU,GIRL"  It gets no simpler than  this, just because you lay down with someone doesn't mean that they respect you, to be honest it doesn't even mean that they like you. You where just available when they needed you. So, learn to respect yourself because ultimately the way you choose to carry yourself, is the way you choose to be treated. So, if you carry yourself like a WHORE, then expect to be treated li...

 I have something that has been weighing on my conscience for awhile now and I just cant hold my peace.  I have always been very careful about the company that I keep and who I call friend but as I get older I realize the true definition of friend.   You see I think that a lot of people including myself tend to take that word for granted at times especially when things are going good but when the true test of friendship is when thing get bad. You see a friendship by definition is a common bond a feeling a personal regard between two people but how can you call someone a friend or consider yourself a friend when things get hard and that feeling of personal regard dissipates. I consider myself a good friend to all that I come in contact with and not because I think I am better than most but because all of my real friendships have been forged in the fire  and yet our bond has still survived.  My grandmother always told me that you can't call ...