Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Would you believe me if I told you that at thirty years old I have never truly lived alone?   I have been in and out of relationship for the last seventeen years of my life? I have a big family that is very close knit? I have never been alone and to be honest now as I sit down I finally come to the conclusion that although I have always had someone in my life, I have always been lonely. Most people get that confused because I know that I did because I thought being alone and being lonely where the same thing but I was sadly mistaken. As I clung tightly to people and bad relationship I was slowly loosing myself until December 31 st 2015.   IF you read my blog then you know that at Watch Night Service 2015 I had a break down but I now see that is something that I needed in order to get to where I needed to be. I stayed in relationships, clung onto people not because I had a fear of being alone because to be honest the best times I have is when I am by myself...

What causes people to Cheat ??? Its a question that no one really knows the answer to unless they have actually cheated. I personally have not cheated because I do not like keeping track with lies, I would most likely tell on myself lol but truthfully I have been cheated on and I remember how it impacted me emotionally, physically and mentally. That is what this post all about dealing with the residual effects because although I honestly believe that cheating has more to do with the cheater than their companion unfortunately the companion becomes a victim of their internal war. Be Hurt, Not Angry I know that is easier said than done but truth is the first is to not lash out because you unknowingly give them the satisfaction of having control over you which in some cases is like feeding the beast, you lash out and they say I know you would act like that, that's why i didn't tell you. KEEP your POWER. But you are allowed to feel hu...

I have been going through a very private yet emotional conflict over the last 6 to 7 months and it has cause me a lot of stress and worry. My life was spiraling and although I was not doing anything crazy I was losing pieces of myself which is not cool. So, last week I sat down with my journal and my pen as often do I started to create a list of things I had not yet to accomplish in my life, goals I have given up on, things I have taken for granted and things I still want to do . AS I wrote and just let my emotions pour on the page on the last line I wrote “I BET YOU WONT FIGHT ABOUT IT”.    If you know me then you know that is one of my favorite   phrases after I talk shit to someone almost like I taunt to get a reaction out of person but as I look at my journal I had to think , who was I taunting at this moment, who was I trying to get a reaction out of?   Then it clicked I was taunting myself because I had allowed life and all the drama that comes...