Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

So, as social experiment on Tuesdays I allowed all of my followers on Instagram (@trcoaching) to slide into in my DM's and I got about fifty amazing questions.  I got about six questions that revolved around the topic of sex.  If you have read any my prior post then you know that I am all about relating topics to my real life. I don't speak a lot about sex because at the times I did not know how to approach the topics without giving away too much or having you guys giving me side eyes.  But through much deliberation I will start sprinkling more sex and intimacy throughout my post like I am doing today. The Cover is by Asia Major (YouTube Channel : TheAsiaMajor One of the questions I received on Tuesday asked "  What makes good sex, great sex and what kind of lover are you ? I don't think a person can honestly answer what kind of lover that they are because they can only experience what they feel but not what the other person is feeling. I would assume that ...

  So, look I had to address this subject matter because it is something that I hear so often but I don’t people understand the origin or true meaning of the word.   A Ridah as defined by the Urban Dictionary is an individual that is down for whatever, this person is fearless, a Ridah would go to great lengths to achieve their goals, missions, or objective and nothing will stand in their way.   A girl who is in it for the long run no matter what. Nothing in that definition states that a Ridah is blind, dumb, stupid or a pushover. Ladies or gentleman allowing your partner to use and abuse your trust and loyalty does not make you a ride it makes you a fool.   Also, some people confuse a Ridah with a passenger so let me break it down for you.   A Ridah will be there for pushing you to be your best A passenger will push you in order to get the best that they can get from you   A Ridah will defend you public and check yo...

When I tell you that music imitates life when I first heard this song by Lloyd I fell in love with it because it described how I was feeling because over the last year in a half I have been in state of reconstruction and in that state I lost a lot. I mean at times I felt like I was on the verge of losing my mind but what I discovered was worth the eternal war that waged.      When I decided in 2013-2014 that I decided to embark on facet and “Coach Destiny” was created and it opened a lot of avenues for me and my brand.   I was always into life coaching and helping people so that part of me has always been but if you have followed me then you   know that I growing up I dealt with a lot a insecurities as well so actually allowing myself and image was very foreign to me. My cousin presented an opportunity to be apart of online radio show “Catching the Scoop” which introduced me to a whole new audience of people and that along with social media my brand als...

                                                                        I know the title alone got yall minds wondering where in the hell is she going to go with this topic. But yesterday I had a very long conversation with my brother, oh how I love my brothers all of them because they give me so much insight into the savage male brains, yeah ladies I am telling you that all my brothers are straight savages… but the question remains Are you in a committed relationship or Are You Convenient Pussy?   It is amazing to me that how some women who pride themselves in being “Bad Bitches” don’t even know that they like mos...

For those who dont know I also do couples coaching and one thing I always get is question in regards to sex. I dont really answer them but I have decided to indulge because sexualality is a very real part of our lives. Here are a few questions that were picked out by my team ... Q: what if any is the difference between having sex and intimacy? A.       There is a difference because although sex for most is an intimate act that’s not what intimacy is. Intimacy is like a shared affection something a cuddling on the couch, fixing a quiet dinner or a good conversation while driving are all intimate encounters that do not involve sex. Q. Do you believe in “no strings attached” sex ? A. Personally I think that sex in itself is a “string” but I do believe that people can a relationship solely based upon a physical attraction. I don’t recommend it because eventually you will develop some sort of attachment to the person. So let me clarify, I think sex w...

I honor of  the life  and legacy of  Micheal Jackson I have dedicated this post to him. I absolutely love this song but for a long time it took me a long time to truly understand what he was trying to say with this song. But once I got I got it and I ran with it, So, let me break it down to you . In this song , Micheal is saying that in order to change the world, make things better in life and the lives of others we first must love ourselves. WE CANNOT BECOME WHO WE ARE DESTINED TO BE IF WE ARE AFRAID TO FACE THE PERSON IN THE MIRROR,  I want to say that the process if easy and that after a few powerful confirmations then you got it but it is not. Some days you wake feeling like the Queen Sheba and other days you will wake up feeling like Sh*t. I am just being honest, I know for myself I constantly battling between the woman that I am and the woman that I want to become, But once I  confronted the person in the mirror it became easier to deal with so many othe...

Coach Destiny, I have a group of friends we have been friends for a very long time but i have noticed that recently we don't have the same goals and ambitions.  often time i am just bored being around them. How  do you know when you have outgrown a friendship?   Chelsea I want you first to ask yourself is there any other reason why you are so disengaged with your friends. Do you have other friends?  Why are you still friends with them?  I think that you have to self explore a little,  we all have old friends that we may not speak often and we have friends that we speak with daily. After some exploration, if you do not have anything in common with them then maybe you should move forward in life but still be friendly cause good friends are hard to come by Coach Destiny I never really see you post anything about sex but I have a sex problem . I kind of overhead my boyfriend talking to his boys and he basically said "my sex was boring". I don't...