Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Doubting yourself This is one of the self destructive things that you can do to yourself because when you doubt yourself whatever it is that you want out of life will never happen because you don’t have the faith needed to get it don. Negative thinking Negativity is poison and it poison everything and everyone around you. So, you have to be caution on who you allow into your life and the thoughts you allow into your mind. Fear of failure The only thing that beats a failure is a TRY, my dad told me that like every day when I was growing up and now I fully understand what it means, that failure is not a destination it is a learning point so there is no need to be afraid of more information because it will make you better in the end Destructive Relationships One of the hardest things for people including myself is to pull away when people are sucking the life from us and eventually it w

Q: Recently me and one of my closest friends just stopped talking, she kind of betrayed me and I decided to not deal with her anymore but at the same time I still have some things on my chest, what should i do? A: Do you still have her contact information, I would reach out to her and have a real sit down and just air it out. But I do caution you this, it has to be two sided so you also have to give her a chance to clear her chest as well. I did it once with an old friend and at the end of the convo we decided that it wasn't worth trying to rebuild the trust but we could at least be civil. I mean we all have at least two friends that are fun to hang out with but we don't share secrets with.  Q: I just read your last post about 9 steps to a better life but my question to you is how important is it to have a support team and can you make it without one? A: I think that having a support team around you could truly make your journey smoother but like I always say not everyone

I saw this posting from a church bible study and I after studying the word and implementing my own urban break down mixed with my life coaching techniques, I am taking from the biblical to the masses because although I believe everyone should believe in someone higher I refuse to push my beliefs onto others, I want to bring people to GOD  but not by pushing but by example. You must choose  : It comes a time in all of our lives that we have to choose what we want to do with our lives, I call it the crossroads where we all stand and have to decide whether we Let Life Happen to Us or If we settle for what life has given us. Your dream and your calling need to be #1 priority : I know that life can be filled with so much other obstacles, I mean sometimes I look at my own to do list and things that I want to do , need to do and I wonder how , will, when will I do it all. But when you make the decision to pursue your calling that has to be the top of of your life list every day, no days

Q: I think that I am a very ambitious man but my girl does not support me which makes it harder follow my dreams, how can I tell her that she is killing my dreams? A: You just sit her down and tell her because having a strong support system around you while you are trying to pursue your dreams is a must and if she doesn't believe in you, then exactly where is the relationship going. So, I would suggest that you guys have a conversation and you to be honest. Q:My ex girl said that I had a problem with compromising and today my momma said the same thing, so how do I learn to be more compromising? A: First, you have to realize that you are not the center of the universe and that life will not go your way. You may not want to hear this but learning how to compromise comes with just growing up and becoming an adult. Especially in relationships there is a lot of give and take  and until you learn to do that you will have a lot of ex girls. Q: I read your blog almost everyday to t

Q: I have a friend actually she is my best friend but the last couple of months, we have drifted apart, I mean it is like we are going in two seperate directions with our lives, we hang with different people, we put value on different things. How can I still call her my best friend? A: If you had one person outside of family, that you could call to save your life, would it be her? Answer that question and that will let you know where you stand in the friendship  We sometimes feel that we have personal ownership over our friends that they have to call us everyday, give us a daily play by play of their lives for our approval but that's not how true friendship should work. Me and my bestie spent most of our teenage years up to our early twenties being inseparable and then as we began to grow into women we changed. She likes corporate work and aspires to become a full figure model, I love non profit work and I am a life coach, We lead very different lives but our bond is still strong

Well if you know me then you that music is a major influence on my life and it often inspires me to help empower you. Now, my girl Kelly Rowland came out with this song " Dirty Laundry" and regardless of how you feel about the words are powerful and it led me to the topic of domestic violence. So.let's do this dirty laundry . I like most girls gag at the thought of being in an abusive relationship, we say things like " I wish he would put his hands on me" but truth is no matter how strong you may think you are, your true strength will never be tested until you are the one in the ring. One out of three women will be involved in an abusive relationship in there lifetime and sad thing is that most want know it because he will never leave a physical mark but emotionally you will be battered. Strength has no bearings when it comes to abuse, there are several reasons why women succumb to abuse; low self-esteem, an abusive upbringing, or a million others reasons bu

I  believe  in being completely honest with myself, my family and my audience. This is an entry that I tweeked from my own online journal and it is also a section in book I am writing called  " Whispers in the dark " which  chronicles  my journey from a broken depressed young girl to a happy life loving young woman that I am today but I still have bad days.  There comes a time in everyone life where they will have to make a decision. Well, about a month ago I had my gallbladder removed and the surgery had some complications when it came to the breathing tube due some scar tissue from a previous surgery.  It took a while to admit this but that scared me because that surgery prior took my voice, I walked around for a year with a tube in my throat and for a girl that was already in secure that pushed me over the edge and retreated into the darkness and although I didn’t know it then I can see it now.  So, since the surgery I have been spiraling, it is like there

Hey Guys I apologize for the delay but I spent the night in the emergency room due a summertime cold I just can not shake. But here we go ... Q:  So, I am in a relationship but here lately I find myself thinking a lot about my ex, I mean we were together for a long time but here lately I feel like drawn to her. But with my new girl its easy, she is okay with her life and where it is by ex was always dreaming, wanted to do so much. I don't know what to do ? A: I think the question you have to ask yourself is . " Why did you leave?". I think most people if they were honest would say that want an easy life, so if I am right I think you left your ex because things wont easy. But now you have had some time by yourself to grow and now you realize that the best things don't come easy. I think you need to take some time and figure out what you want out of life and what kind of woman will help you get there.  Q: I feel like my life is falling apart all around, how com

Q: I feel like I always attract the wrong guys, I mean what is it in me that attracts dogs and how can I change that? A: First, I don't believe that there is anything wrong with you but maybe you need to first define the type of man that you are looking for. Most females are attracted to a certain type of guy and in your case it seems to be dogs. So, my assignment for you and any other female having a hard time with the wrong guys, is to make a list of what these guys have in common to first find that common thread that connects them and then I want you to break it by telling yourself that you deserve better. Most people end up in unhappy relationships simply because they feel that is what they deserve. Never Settle !! Q: I feel like I have made so many bad decisions in my life, how do change myself and my path for the better, would it even matter? A: As long as you have breath in your body is never to late to make a change in your life especially if that change is for the

As I have stated in my last post, that I was very insecure growing up and there were varous contributing factors that led to that but I refuse to dwell on the past because now when i look in the mirror I not only love the person that is staring back at me but I also appreciate her. Learning to love myself and accept all of who I am was very hard for me because I always felt different but then after years of self torture I know that being different is not a negative thing. I also know that there are some young girls and some women who still deal with issues of insecurities and we all do regardless is you admit or not but right now I am all about sharing my story and my journey, so here I am for the world to see. The email address on this is incorrect the proper email address is : truerevelationscoaching@outlook.com and you can sign up for a coaching session at truerevelations.webs.com

When i was younger I hated mirrors, i was so insecure that the last thing i wanted was to look at myself in the mirror. My father use to  do this things whenever he saw or heard downing myself, he would take me to the closest mirror, place me in front of it and ask me " what do you see". It took me a very very long time to answer that question with encouraging statements.  So, that leads me to ask all of you , " Have you looked in the mirror lately?" Do you like what you see or a you puzzled by your own refection. In a world that is obsessed with what the next person is wearing, what they look like, and how to look like them,  I may even beg to wonder, is it really you looking back at you from the mirror. So today I think we should clean your mirror Introduce yourself to yourself The first you have to do when cleaning the mirror is to get  to know yourself which  may seem easy but some find it almost impossible. But you have to spe

Q: How do I get my girl and my baby momma to be cool with each other because they are always arguing and I feel like I am stuck in between a rock and a hard place? A: Well, I am going to give you kudos for trying but you can not force two people to get along with each other but what you can do is demand respect and common decency. I would recommend a sit down conversation and let them know that they have to do better and set aside their personal beef for the sake of your child and the relationship. It is sad that two women can come together and at least be civil but you have to set boundaries s and then you have to stick to them and be willing to action if they are not willing to abide those boundaries whether it be leaving your girl or going the courts involved. I know it seem harsh but when there is a child involved , you have to do what is best for them and their lives. Q: I am in a relationship and I really think that I am falling for this girl but it is like I can't

I remember when I was younger every time I would say something about someone that was nice she would say " I know you not throwing stones in your glass house", and of course because I love my grandmother I took heed to her words but I would be a hypocrite if I didn’t say that over my years that I have thrown my fair share of rocks and I have some thrown at me. But now at the ripe age of 27, I now fully understand what my grandmothers has been trying to tell me all those years ago. I may not be perfect but I have been on a journey of treating others the way I want to be treated but it really bothers when people throw stones especially when they  discriminatory, stereotypical, and just ridiculous.   How can  we as people say that one group of people is greater than another because at one point in life we have all been enslaved. Who are you that you can afford to judge others?  What makes you superior to others because if we are honest with each other then we all have some

This is my second Sunday doing this and I am still so amped about the response. Again, I like to mention I am only one person, so I will respond to all your emailed questions within 24 hours. With that said let the question begin: Q: I am at a point in my life when I don't know what to it feels like every goal I set , every relationship, everything in my life just always seem to fall apart, what am I doing wrong? A: I know how you feel because I was there not even a year in a.half, I was asking the same questions. First I would say do you believe in someone higher first take all you troubles to him , leave them and trust that he has a plan for your life. Then, I need you to evaluate your past choices how much "YOU" where in those choices. When I viewed mine is when it hit that nothing that I accomplished was ever totally for me. So, that realization mixed with my faith I realized that I wasn't really loosing anything but refocusing on myself and my path. We wil

 I first found my passion for educating and empowering people as an HIV/AIDS peer educator for the American Red Cross , which I guess for most parents it would have been weird for have your fifteen year old daughter traveling around the city, talking about sexually transmitted diseases, handing out condoms and talking about birth control. But my dad was cool at least on the outside, he knew that for me education was only power and besides my mom had passed away so me teaching myself really delayed the sex talk. However, I had a great mentor by the name of David Bolter and til this day I love and owe him more than I could put into words, but when I first started as a peer educator , he taught me this one basic rule when it comes to bodily fluids; " If it is wet and it is not yours, DON’T TOUCH IT".  This statement has been a staple in my life, it’s help me to stay clear of other's people drama and causing myself unnecessary stress and I wanted to share it with

So, unlike the majority of my post this one is really self centered , I always try and use life experiences to help reach and empower others but I was asked by someone " Who Am I". I think that is a great question so allow me to introduce myself to those who do not know and reintroduce myself to those who do. My name is Destiny and I an native of Richmond, Va. Life has taken me through a lot , I have been insecure, depressed, over joyed, accomplished, miserable, in love, and broken hearted. Each life experience gave me a very valuable lesson which I try to share with the world in hopes that it may change someone life and keep them away from the darkness in life because there are no answers in the darkness just more pain. I do not do what I do for fame or notarity I do it because I feel that it needs to be done, we have some different outlets feeding us negativity or fluffed up optimism but I wanted to  let people know that life is hard , you get knocked up a lot but every

I realized that when looking at my post that I was discuss matters of the heart, trying to find yourself and your purpose. However, your financial wellness is also very important to me and I am always reading articles on how to get my finances in order because like some I was young and dumb but as I grow and mature I want my money to do the same thing. So, I saw this article a while back that I am using the steps to get myself in healthy financial relations ship and I want to share them with you, so here they go. 1. Define Your Goals The first step towards getting all your finances firing on all pistons again is to define your goals. This may seem simple, but chances are that the reason you’ve landed yourself in a sticky situation is because you’ve lost sight of the bigger picture. Where did all your money go? And where should it have been going? Were you plunking money down on a souped up sports car and a gargantuan flat screen TV when you really wanted to save up for a house? D