Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Happy Sunday Team : I know it has been a LONG while I appreciate you guys allowing me the time to deal with my personal life issues while I rebuild myself from the inside out.  So, since I believe in being totally translucent with you guys. I will give you a snapshot of how I have been  since we last spoke and where I am now.  In a nutshell I did not really deal with the lost of my grandmother in 2017 and that depression slowly but surely crept into every aspect of my life. I  was settling and loosing myself to this world. I somehow lost my connection with my higher power, if I am being honest I was mad at God because he had removed another great woman from life. I appreciated all the blessing he bestowed upon me but I was still kind of hurt by the lost and because of that me and God became like distant friends, I acknowledge who he was but I did not seek him out . So, this leads me to where I am today?  After a series of both life changing and devastat...

Hey Team I know it has been a REALLY long time and I do apologize with all of my heart but I have been dealing with a lot. A little over a year ago my grandmother passed away and she was one of my biggest supporters so I have been really dealing with my depression and trying to refocus my passion and progression. But I am back and I have lot in store for all my Team, so make sure that you hit the SUBSCRIBE button and well as follow me on IG @coach_destiny and trccoaching THANKS FOR ALL OF YOUR LOVE AND SUPPORT COACH DESTINY

It’s been a long time and I have so much more to talk about because there is so much going in the world but because May is Mental Health Awareness Month I wanted to touch on the issue.   You all know that I love music, so when I heard this song by Shawn Mendes it immediately spoke to me. If you know me or follow then you know that I lost my mother when I was 14 years old and honestly it is a wound that never heals. I endure but I miss her daily. But on top of that me and my mother has other issues; my father said we are so much alike that we repelled each other.   Nevertheless, my mother passed away and I felt guilty and hurt but I never had time to truly process that pain.   In most black family, we endure “God never gives us more than we handle” and we push on. But the pain doesn’t go away it just fest almost like a smoldering volcano. So, my life went and I had some great accomplishment but I also had some tragic lows.   In, my senior year of high ...

I absolutely love the  lifehack,org website because it is just a wealth of motivation and resources especially for someone in my profession. One thing I have been addressing a lot with my clients is how you start you day. I know there are a lot of people who don't understand the importance of your morning routine impacts your entire day. Simply, how you start is how you finish, I have picked a few morning routines that I use to turn my Blah day into a Blessed day. 1. Meditate/Pray for at least 15 mins : The first think I do when I open my eyes I thank God for the day, I pray for peace, patience and strength. I stay in silence allow God to give me my directions for the day. 2. 20 min Walk or Workout : Either or a mix of both helps me to distress from anything that I held on to from the prior day and it also gets my blood pumping. 3. Plan your day : Check you to do list and look at your calendar to make sure that you are properly prepared all that you have to do throughout ...

Although I know she does not need my shameless I am telling you that if you have not heard Mary J’s new album, Strength of Woman. Then you need to listen and take notes because that album stays on repeat I must listen to it at least every other day. But that leads me to the one of my favorite song “Glow Up”. If you have ever been in relationship and the break up was not very amical then you know about the “Glow Up” that need show your ex what they have missing that the grass is not greener on the other side per se. I am by no means anti glow up but I feel that it can lead you down two paths if you are mental is not right. It can lead to growing up and becoming better or it can lead to self-destruction and I am here to show the path to latter. These are few ways to make sure that your GLOW up doesn’t BLOW in your face. 1.        Self-Love don’t Self Loathe: I know the first thing we do when we break up is ask “What is wrong with us “but truth no...

Q: What if your faith and your current career don't align? A: Then you need to go back to your faith and listen to the answers that he gives you Q:  How do you walk away from people you've known half your life? A: Dont confuse history with loyalty not everyone who ages together will actually grow together.  you can still be cordial with the knowing that yall lives are on two different paths Q:  Is there away to fix bad sex? A: Communication and exploration  remember sex should be more than physical act Q: Is it possible to rebuild trust? A: It's possible only after you have truly healed and forgave otherwise you will harbor resentment Q: What is the best way to overcome heartbreak? A: Reflection and time.. give yourself the opportunity to heal Q. How do you handle jealous people? A. keep being great their jealousy has nothing to do with you

I honor of  the life  and legacy of  Micheal Jackson I have dedicated this post to him. I absolutely love this song but for a long time it took me a long time to truly understand what he was trying to say with this song. But once I got I got it and I ran with it, So, let me break it down to you . In this song , Micheal is saying that in order to change the world, make things better in life and the lives of others we first must love ourselves. WE CANNOT BECOME WHO WE ARE DESTINED TO BE IF WE ARE AFRAID TO FACE THE PERSON IN THE MIRROR,  I want to say that the process if easy and that after a few powerful confirmations then you got it but it is not. Some days you wake feeling like the Queen Sheba and other days you will wake up feeling like Sh*t. I am just being honest, I know for myself I constantly battling between the woman that I am and the woman that I want to become, But once I  confronted the person in the mirror it became easier to deal with so many othe...

I had the great blog in my mind to write for y'all on Saturday but literally as I set down to write it my mind went blank.I tried for two days to get back my message and then I realized that my internal conflict has been creating a mental block. You see I am believer in Jesus Christ and although I never push my religion on anyone I still try my best to live my life according to his will. I have not write been doing that I mean I have recharged my passion which is non profit work with hopes of creating a HOPE center for my city but there has been another calling tugging at my heart that I have been trying for the last six months trying to ignore or maybe out run but then I heard a word .. You can not out run  God. John 14:15 state " I you love me, you will obey what I command". I have not been doing that I have been running afraid of what people might think about me, not wanting to become a hypocrite or the type of "church folk" that i always talk about bu...

As I sit in my living room speaking to my other half and although we have known each other for such a long time it was only when we faced adversity and possibly losing each other that we realized that in order for us to truly be in love that, we first had to allow love in our lives. Although, we would like to think that we are better than our parents and because we are grown that our childhood doesn’t really impact our adult decision but truth is that it does. I mean, I was personally ready to throw fifteen tears away because I didn’t truly know how to give a 100 % of myself to someone else. So, here are a few things that we learned that help build our relationship and actually made love our love so much deeper … I hope it helps  1.       Let Go our your past : Throughout life we tend to pick up baggage from our past whether it be the divorce of our parents, parents not being our lives, not having parents, past relationships, wh...

It is so weird that when I look at so many people that I encounter that amongst all the other craziness, one thing that I have noticed that we have some where stepped back from taking accountability for our actions. WE have grown accustom to playing the victim card regardless of the situation.  I was raised in a Christian household and if my parents didn’t instill nothing else in I was taught to always hold myself accountable for the decisions that I make because Romans 14:12 states “So then each of us will give an account of himself to God. “  Which really always stuck with me that when it is my time give my curtain call and I have to my one on one with God, he is not going to ask me, Why I did the things that I did or even who I did them with but he will ask of my to account for my own actions. I am by no means stating that people do not wrong you, that you will walk this life and never be the victim but what I will give you this passage of comfort th...

HEY LOVES !! I do apologize for the impromptu hiatus but I have been trying to restructure my company and expand my brand. But  I am BACK and I missed you all so much. But recently and especially in the spirit of LENT I have been trying to scrub the negative and bad vices out of my life and I wish I could tell you that it has been easy but it has not but I was searching online I saw this article for a life hack to get rid of negativity and allow positivity to flow in your life .. I put a little Coach Destiny tweak on it .. But here we go   Be Grateful for everything : Everyday that you are allowed to take breath should be considered a good day. Stop harping on the bad .the past and stop worrying about the future for all of these things are beyond your control but steady your focus on the present a gift that lies right in front of you.  Laugh More ..especially at yourself : I think we take ourselves to seriously and laughter is indeed a dose a medicine that we...

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I was strolling through my facbook time line and I saw this article not only was it interesting and true and I waned to share it with you all.. Can you believe that it’s already December? This year has flown by in the blink of an eye and we’re on the verge of yet another year — a year full of possibility. What you will accomplish next year greatly depends on the people you surround yourself with. Or, in other words, it greatly depends on which people you decide not to surround yourself with. When bringing in the new year, be sure not to bring all your garbage with you. Leave these toxic individuals in 2014; you’ll feel much lighter, allowing you to get a great running start on the year to come. 1. The people who make your life more stressful. Stress isn’t necessarily a bad thing — in fact, it’s what you make it out to be. If you believe stress is bad for you, then it will be bad for you. If you use stress as the motivator it is, to motivate you to act, th...

The one thing that I have noticed when I began to come into my own, to follow my purpose and to allow God the freedom to work in your life also gives you so much clarity on other things. This week I have been dealing with " Hate" and the face that people can just show so much disdain for another person's position in life  without looking at the path that was taken to get  there. So, this post " Haters" 1. Haters do not really hate you,they hate themselves : You see when a person gives up on themselves and their dreams, they begin to despise everyone who didn't.  So, truthfully they don't hate you, they hate themselves for giving up. 2. LOVE conquers HATE : The best thing you can do to address a HATER is to just LOVE them,  pray that they make peace with their lives and find the strength to pursue their own dreams. 3. Don't let a HATER deter you from your DESTINY :   Never let the negativity of one , stop you from moving forward in you li...

Dependent upon the relationship, breaking up could be the easiest or the most painful thing you will have to do but regardless of the situation I have created some " Break Up Commandments" : Thou shall not drunk dial/text I know that the alcohol can have us in our emotions sometimes and have us feeling like we need to get some stuff of our chest. JUST DON'T DO IT.. resist the urge to call or text your ex especially when you are intoxicated nothing good will come from it. Thou shall not backslide There was a reason why you left and contrary to the hype there is so thing as " No strings attached" sex especially between exes because there was once love there hence "strings". I know it may seem easy or safe to release that sexual tension with someone that you already know intimately. Go to the gym, take a cold shower, watch porn anything but do not fall into that sand trap. Thou shall not vent on facebook The fact that you are w...

Coach Destiny, I have a group of friends we have been friends for a very long time but i have noticed that recently we don't have the same goals and ambitions.  often time i am just bored being around them. How  do you know when you have outgrown a friendship?   Chelsea I want you first to ask yourself is there any other reason why you are so disengaged with your friends. Do you have other friends?  Why are you still friends with them?  I think that you have to self explore a little,  we all have old friends that we may not speak often and we have friends that we speak with daily. After some exploration, if you do not have anything in common with them then maybe you should move forward in life but still be friendly cause good friends are hard to come by Coach Destiny I never really see you post anything about sex but I have a sex problem . I kind of overhead my boyfriend talking to his boys and he basically said "my sex was boring". I don't...