Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

I absolutely love the  lifehack,org website because it is just a wealth of motivation and resources especially for someone in my profession. One thing I have been addressing a lot with my clients is how you start you day. I know there are a lot of people who don't understand the importance of your morning routine impacts your entire day. Simply, how you start is how you finish, I have picked a few morning routines that I use to turn my Blah day into a Blessed day. 1. Meditate/Pray for at least 15 mins : The first think I do when I open my eyes I thank God for the day, I pray for peace, patience and strength. I stay in silence allow God to give me my directions for the day. 2. 20 min Walk or Workout : Either or a mix of both helps me to distress from anything that I held on to from the prior day and it also gets my blood pumping. 3. Plan your day : Check you to do list and look at your calendar to make sure that you are properly prepared all that you have to do throughout ...

Although I know she does not need my shameless I am telling you that if you have not heard Mary J’s new album, Strength of Woman. Then you need to listen and take notes because that album stays on repeat I must listen to it at least every other day. But that leads me to the one of my favorite song “Glow Up”. If you have ever been in relationship and the break up was not very amical then you know about the “Glow Up” that need show your ex what they have missing that the grass is not greener on the other side per se. I am by no means anti glow up but I feel that it can lead you down two paths if you are mental is not right. It can lead to growing up and becoming better or it can lead to self-destruction and I am here to show the path to latter. These are few ways to make sure that your GLOW up doesn’t BLOW in your face. 1.        Self-Love don’t Self Loathe: I know the first thing we do when we break up is ask “What is wrong with us “but truth no...

18 years ago today I lost the woman who gave me life ,the person I ever loved. Rest Easy Ma After eighteen years, I thought it would be easier, the pain would be a little easier to bare, but eighteen years later I still find myself peeking through the blinds at five hoping your car is out there, some days the pain is so much that it knocks me off my feet, other days I find myself reminiscing on the memories of you until I lull myself to sleep, Every year on this day I find myself stuck in time, replaying those days event trying to figure out how to get to you in time, it took me a long-time deal with my grief and to stop being angry with the man above because although your body was dead and gone I will still surrounded by your love.   I look at my siblings and see you, find ourselves saying some of the crazy shit you use to say, our mouths are so much like yours, we go from zero to one hundred quick, crazy work ethic, and unapologetic swag yeah everyone knows ...

If you are following me on Social Media and if you are not then go follow me on IG @coach_destiny and   coachdestiny on Snapchat.   I am famous for my “Life Lessons” just little tidbits in the form of memes,quotes, pictures, etc to help motivate and empower people to become the best version of themselves. I was actually going through my emails and I stumbled upon this article from the Life hacks site that I put my own little Coach Destiny twist on in regards to life lessons that we should never forget. 1.        Tomorrow Never Comes: We all know or should know that we are not promised tomorrow so we should make every day our best days. I know that it’s unrealistic to say that every day will be sunshine and rainbows but the fact that you are even able to still experience the storms should be enough to garner a smile. Don’t put off goals and dreams that you want to accomplish because that day will never come unless you purpos...

You should have already known that I was coming after this one but do not get it twisted, this is not going to male  basing post but I would not be me if I didn't put my personal spin on this. I love this song, and although I agree with K. Michele you can't raise any grown person whether it be male or female but I do believe that with communication, patience and love that you can't help them grow. You know I have to use my own life as an example, me and my boo, have know each other going on  15 years which is the equivalent to more than half our lives, we have seen each other through some tough times, we grew up and three years ago we grew apart but not we are back together and the relationship is better because we both understand not only where we are in life but where want to be. What I didn't understand three years ago is that  I was trying to raise a man instead of letting him come into his own manhood. You see sometimes as women and some men, we are already on ...

Doing some research for an upcoming group session, I came upon the article at Oprah.com on finding your emotional balance. I know the importance of finding your emotional peace.  I hope this helps you.. Step 1: Emotional Checkup Sit down with a calendar and ask yourself how you've been feeling over the past couple of weeks—depressed, anxious, joyful, angry? Do you seem uncharacteristically blue and lethargic? If yes, can you see a good reason for it? The questions may seem obvious, but if you don't ask them, Rosenthal says, "it's easy to shove the problem out of your mind." Next check your expectations. The big mistake people make is confusing emotional balance with happiness, says Alice Domar, PhD, director of the Mind/Body Center for Women's Health at Boston IVF and the author of Self-Nurture . "The huge number of people on Prozac in this country includes many, I think, who were experiencing life's ups and downs normally but had an expectation...

"This Is Me.." is a collection of poetry the chronicles my life from childhood to adulthood. This book has truly been a life time in the making, I discovered the healing powers of writing when I was young girl being called on to provide words of peace and encouragement at family funerals and functions. I embraced the healing powers of words and writing became like therapy to me. Making the decision to publish this book was a really hard one because although I devote my life to helping others and I am now a pretty open person, this book digs deep into my issue's with insecurity,  my family relationship, my personal relationships, my faith and relationship with God. I not only pulled stories from my own life but from the lives of others that impacted me. It took a lot of prayer to get me to the point where I can truly bare myself entirely to anyone who wants to read and I am not doing for the money or fame, I am doing it because I spent so much of my life, not living...

INSECURITY IS A VERY REAL SUBJECT THAT AFFECTS EVERYONE AT ONE POINT IN HIS OR HER LIVES. SOME GROW OUT OF IT, SOME GROW INTO IT AND SOME HURT THEMSELVES TRYING TO PRETEND LIKE IT DOESN'T EXIST. THE PURPOSE OF THE CROOKED SMILEZ CAMPAIGN IS TO HELP PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND WHO THEY ARE AND THE WAY THEY LOOK IS ENOUGH.  THIS IS A SELF LOVE CAMPAIGN. WE WANT TO HEAR YOUR STORY. IF YOU HAVE A STORY, A POEM, A SONG, A VIDEO CLIP, A PICTURE OF HOW YOU OVER CAME YOUR INSECURITY, WE WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU. WE WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO TELL US ABOUT YOUR JOURNEY TO GOOD SELF ESTEEM.  WE WILL ALSO BE POSTING YOUR STORIES ON ALL OF OUR SOCIAL MEDIA, PUBLIC ACCESS OUTLET TO GET THE WORD OUT. WE ALSO WANT TO HEAR FROM THOSE WHO MAY NOT HAVE COMPLETED THEIR JOURNEY AND THE AFFECT THAT BEING INSECURE HAS ON THEIR LIVES, RELATIONSHIPS, ETC. WE WANT TO HELP YOU. EVERYONE WHO PARTICIPATES IN THIS SELF LOVE CAMPAIGN WILL BE OFFERED ONE FREE 2 HOUR SESSION WITH COACH DEST...

If you have been keeping up with me and my movements I do apologize I have been slacking on my posts but I have been extremely busy building my empire with my business partner but I have a ton of things that I want to speak on . I see a lot of people trying to get ahead in life and I applaud that but what I don't appreciate is the lack of SUPPORT. Personally, if you are doing something and it is different but you are good at what you do then I APPLAUD you and I wish you much success. But what I truly despise is people who are unhappy in their current life situation so they make it their mission to try to discourage others.  My answer to them is this " Respect it or Check it.". You don't have to like me or even like what I am doing but refuse to allow others to poison your dreams. I have identified a few tell tell signs of these "dream killers" : * People who words don't match there actions, they say they are supporting you but you haven't see...

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When i was younger I hated mirrors, i was so insecure that the last thing i wanted was to look at myself in the mirror. My father use to  do this things whenever he saw or heard downing myself, he would take me to the closest mirror, place me in front of it and ask me " what do you see". It took me a very very long time to answer that question with encouraging statements.  So, that leads me to ask all of you , " Have you looked in the mirror lately?" Do you like what you see or a you puzzled by your own refection. In a world that is obsessed with what the next person is wearing, what they look like, and how to look like them,  I may even beg to wonder, is it really you looking back at you from the mirror. So today I think we should clean your mirror Introduce yourself to yourself The first you have to do when cleaning the mirror is to get  to know yourself which  may seem easy but some find it almost impossible. But you have to...

I am absolutely in love with the song by Fantasia ever since I first heard it. Its one of those songs that's not really a song but a testimony placed over a hot beat. It's so honest, so raw and so relatable. So, you know I had to break it down for yall. We've all have and will have "Loose to Win" moments in our lives whether it be personal or professional we will all be knocked down to only come back the champion. I believe that I connected to this song because of what I have been going through lately and how I can actually set back and so myself loose everything that I thought was important only to WIN the my biggest prize ever myself. I started off this new year with a plan, I was going to get healthy, suck it up and work at a job that I didn't like but will continue to work there, I would get my book published, pay off some of my school debt and pursue my life coaching and speaking as well as kick off my company dedicated to the uplifting of the p...

So, I opened my blog up to my followers of all my social media website and they topic of the week is loveless relationships. It really bothers me when I see a couple and it so obvious to everyone that they are no longer in love with each other but then that begs the question why are they still together. So, here goes a couple of the most famous excuses of why * We're together for the children : Although it maybe painful in the beginning I can almost guarantee that there is no child who truly love their parents that want to see them miserable. If you are not happy, they can tell and eventually your unhappiness will spread to them * We've been together for so long, it just makes since: So because you are afraid of the unknown you would rather allow yourself to be unhappy. I want you to know that unhappiness will soon breed bitterness which will then turn into hatred. Wouldn't be easier to leave friend then to be thrown out by an enemy. * I still love them : But do...

I was reading my monthly edition of Essence magazine when I came across an article about how to make 2012 the best year EVER. As, I begin to read I picked out several points that I also happen t agree with. Here are some ways on how to make this year the beginning of the best years of your life by finally keeping those resolutions that you made to yourself: ·              Write it down o    This always work for me because I constantly have ideas popping into my head but if you take the time to write them down then you don’t have to worry about trying to remember them all or forgetting the important ones. I carry a small notebook in my purse and also have one in the glove compartment of my car so I am prepared whenever inspiration strikes. ·          Enlist Help o    It can be your Best friend, mentor, family member anyone that is going  to help push you tow...

When I sit down and reflect on this past year all I can say is , "Thank You Lord"  This year has truly been my purge and grow season. I have hurt, learned some new things, hurt, grew up a little more, and hurt some more but in the end when I take a honest look back ... TRUTH is ... it's exactly what I needed. Truth is there where times during this past year where I stood on the verge of loosing it all , my house, my car, my job, my mind. Truth is there were several times this year that I felt like giving up, when everything I touched even thought about turned to crap and even it those few  moments when I felt myself getting back on only to be sucker punched by another disappointment. Truth is this year I have experienced so much heart ache and pain and for the first time I didn't run it or try to bury it. Instead I confronted it, I e,braced it by allowing myself to hurt , then heal so that I can move on. Truth is this year that is soon to past brought me face ...

As the year winds down and new one is on the horizon and I look at some of these females and all I can do is SMH!!. I am like seriously a woman is where life begin, hands down the strongest creatures on earth. So, when did we become some insecure, so needy, so self destructive. I have a couple of issues that I have address and then I am going to let it go but it just bothers me when I see beautiful women willingly belittle themselves for the love or just plain interest of a man. First thing ladies if a man leaves you, then MOVE ON but what you don't do is get mad at his new girl and try to  berate her  because you may be mad or hurt but HE hurt not HER. Second thing, STOP acting as if you can't be HAPPY unless you are with a MAN because if that is the case then you are sentencing yourself to a life time of misery. As a woman you should be able to maintain your own happiness by living out your dreams and ambitions. Last thing, and then I am done STOP using you...

So, if you don't know anything about me know that I truly dislike people who knowingly  enter a relationship with someone knowing that person is already in a relationship or worse married. I don't understand the purpose of cheating any way because all it does is make an already bad situation worse.  The one thing that I can't stand about it  especially with females is that when you enter a relationship with a married man or a man that's already in a relationship and you think that you are going to be the EXCEPTION. Do you honestly believe that he will not do the same thing to you? Trust, boo boo the cookie is not that good. Truth is  when a person cheats it's never really about the person that they are with, it's something in that person that they need to address and no matter how much love, attention, or sex you give him it will never be enough.  So, why do some of believe that we can come in and be the difference in his life that once he...

There are only two true emotions that is LOVE and FEAR. Anger is manifestation of Fear. I have compile for you a short list of ways to help you avoid getting ANGRY ... 1. " Call it what it is?" - If you feel your rage rising inside of you, if something or someone strikes the wrong nerve, then "SAY IT", if you are angry then say you are angry. 2. "Don't wait INHALE" -  When you begin to feel irritated then take a deep in, allow your frustrations, worries, and anger to be released during the exhale. 3 ."Note To Self" - - Today is a great day, I am loves and all is GREAT in my world",  this phrased is etched in my mirror and into my brain. Anytime you begin to feel angry take your mind to be a better place., remember a funny moment or a great memory. 4. "Smile" - Replacing the fear with love will instantly put you back in good spirits. Smiles normally do it for me especially when they come from my niece, but when eve...

Sick and tired of being sick and tired. I'm not getting any younger waiting for life to happen to me instead of getting up and living it. GOD, I cry out, why am I so fearful when I know that you will always take care of me. So, here I am asking you to take away all the past pain, the present hurt, and all the fear. I don't want to suffer anymore; I am tired of the struggle I just want to live a full life of joy and prosperity. At time, GOD I feel like at any given moment that I will just tumble over and die. When did I become this weak? When I was younger I really dreamed the impossible dreams but then I actually went out and lived them. I have accomplished a lot but somewhere between growing up, the need for money, sex, education, personal relationships, life's drama and DEATH. I became afraid to live. I still dream but they're empty. A dream without drive is like life with no purpose, it just leaves you lost. Or in my case it leads you to create an alternate re...

I have one question : " What do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you recognize the person that's looking back at you or are you looking at stranger. I truly wonder how many people will answer this question honestly and you don't have post it because one thing none of can escape and that's the truth that we have in ourselves. So, I will answer first until about three weeks ago I saw everything in the mirror but me. I saw pain, confusion, hurt, family, love, hate, anger, stress, and even death but I could not see me. You see the hardest thing for most people to admit is that we are not strong all the times and that we as human beings a flawed and we make mistakes.  So, I saw all my mishaps, successes and failures in the mirror but I couldn't see me. Why, you ask because for brief moment in my life I started to forget who I was and more importantly WHO'S I was. You see life can sometimes beat you down so low to the point that you can't ...