Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Happy Sunday Team : I know it has been a LONG while I appreciate you guys allowing me the time to deal with my personal life issues while I rebuild myself from the inside out.  So, since I believe in being totally translucent with you guys. I will give you a snapshot of how I have been  since we last spoke and where I am now.  In a nutshell I did not really deal with the lost of my grandmother in 2017 and that depression slowly but surely crept into every aspect of my life. I  was settling and loosing myself to this world. I somehow lost my connection with my higher power, if I am being honest I was mad at God because he had removed another great woman from life. I appreciated all the blessing he bestowed upon me but I was still kind of hurt by the lost and because of that me and God became like distant friends, I acknowledge who he was but I did not seek him out . So, this leads me to where I am today?  After a series of both life changing and devastat...

Wins and Losses Okay before I even get into this purpose of this blog, I am about to give a shameless plug for one of my favorite rappers Meek Mill’s new album is FIRE I mean in my opinion he has 17 hits on this album. I love an artist who grows with his music and you can honestly hear the growth. Also, if you follow Meek or heard some of his recent interviews then you can hear how he has grown.  And of course, he gives you that Meek Mill energy that gives you the instant burst energy. Okay now let’s get down to business, after listening to Meek Mill’s album all weekend it inspired me but also gave me time to reflect on my life and all the things in my life all the wins and losses and this is what lead me to this post, 1.        DON’T BE AFRAID TO CELEBRATE YOUR WIN: I know I use to think that if you celebrate your success and accomplishments then you were somehow being arrogant but as I have grown that not celebrating a win is truly a...

It’s been awhile not that I have not have anything to say but I literally have not had to time to sit down and but my thoughts into words. There is a difference from being busy and working and I have been working trying to create some new opportunities for myself and the ones that I love but there is neither here or there. I am back with an arsenal of issues for us discuss. If there is a topic or an issue you would like for me to address please feel free to send it to me thecoachdestiny@gmail.com So, todays topic is all about Self- Love because I feel that is something that is missing in the world. I have experienced people who are selfish but they don’t love themselves they just guard themselves with materialistic items to make them feel complete. I see people who a searching for love in all the wrong places and people because they are know they are missing it but not knowing that the love they seek comes from within. I like most people confused things with love and I thoug...

Q: What if your faith and your current career don't align? A: Then you need to go back to your faith and listen to the answers that he gives you Q:  How do you walk away from people you've known half your life? A: Dont confuse history with loyalty not everyone who ages together will actually grow together.  you can still be cordial with the knowing that yall lives are on two different paths Q:  Is there away to fix bad sex? A: Communication and exploration  remember sex should be more than physical act Q: Is it possible to rebuild trust? A: It's possible only after you have truly healed and forgave otherwise you will harbor resentment Q: What is the best way to overcome heartbreak? A: Reflection and time.. give yourself the opportunity to heal Q. How do you handle jealous people? A. keep being great their jealousy has nothing to do with you

Would you believe me if I told you that at thirty years old I have never truly lived alone?   I have been in and out of relationship for the last seventeen years of my life? I have a big family that is very close knit? I have never been alone and to be honest now as I sit down I finally come to the conclusion that although I have always had someone in my life, I have always been lonely. Most people get that confused because I know that I did because I thought being alone and being lonely where the same thing but I was sadly mistaken. As I clung tightly to people and bad relationship I was slowly loosing myself until December 31 st 2015.   IF you read my blog then you know that at Watch Night Service 2015 I had a break down but I now see that is something that I needed in order to get to where I needed to be. I stayed in relationships, clung onto people not because I had a fear of being alone because to be honest the best times I have is when I am by myself...

I honor of  the life  and legacy of  Micheal Jackson I have dedicated this post to him. I absolutely love this song but for a long time it took me a long time to truly understand what he was trying to say with this song. But once I got I got it and I ran with it, So, let me break it down to you . In this song , Micheal is saying that in order to change the world, make things better in life and the lives of others we first must love ourselves. WE CANNOT BECOME WHO WE ARE DESTINED TO BE IF WE ARE AFRAID TO FACE THE PERSON IN THE MIRROR,  I want to say that the process if easy and that after a few powerful confirmations then you got it but it is not. Some days you wake feeling like the Queen Sheba and other days you will wake up feeling like Sh*t. I am just being honest, I know for myself I constantly battling between the woman that I am and the woman that I want to become, But once I  confronted the person in the mirror it became easier to deal with so many othe...

I think one of the hardest things that I had to learn as I began to grow into the woman that I am becoming is to learn how to love myself. I know that for some to hear this its with that you do or your don’t but if you live long enough and endure life then you will understand that sometimes this world can bring you so low that you began to loathe the image looking back at you in the mirror. Not loving one often comes from not truly knowing oneself and the power that is inside you. Self-hatred has nothing to do with looks, body shape or insecurities and everything to do with the love. Not truly loving oneself, what love is and not knowing your higher power.   I really don’t know when I fell out of love with myself but I know how I fell back in love with Destiny and the steps I took to get there. 1.        Let Go of my pain and anxiety a.        This would be one the hardest things that I had to endure. I mean I h...