Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

You know there is a difference between, “Loving someone and being in love with someone”. Growing up, I believed that this concept was only applied to relationships of the romantic variety but I was sadly mistaking.   If, you follow me then you know that I have been through a lot but 2016 was a turning year and I lost a lot but I found someone who had been missing for awhile and that was me. So, I have spent the last year and a half falling in love with myself and my perfect flaws.   It is so crazy when I think back because I not it has me questioning every time I said “I love you” to someone how much truth was behind it. I mean really can you love someone, I mean truly love someone if you are not truly in love with yourself. Don’t get me wrong I love me, I think I am very special person but I was not in love with myself which basically led me to become a slave to the preconceived notions of who people think I should be instead of living my own truth. Recently, ...

Happy Sunday Team : I know it has been a LONG while I appreciate you guys allowing me the time to deal with my personal life issues while I rebuild myself from the inside out.  So, since I believe in being totally translucent with you guys. I will give you a snapshot of how I have been  since we last spoke and where I am now.  In a nutshell I did not really deal with the lost of my grandmother in 2017 and that depression slowly but surely crept into every aspect of my life. I  was settling and loosing myself to this world. I somehow lost my connection with my higher power, if I am being honest I was mad at God because he had removed another great woman from life. I appreciated all the blessing he bestowed upon me but I was still kind of hurt by the lost and because of that me and God became like distant friends, I acknowledge who he was but I did not seek him out . So, this leads me to where I am today?  After a series of both life changing and devastat...

Whispers in the dark is my new podcast that will be posted every Thursday at 9pm est. This podcast will be very different because not only will i be giving you a no ho'ds barred life lessons like always but i will be sharing my journey. 2016 was indeed my best and worst year but this podcast chronicles how i turned my tragedy into triumph.

So, for the last couple of days I have been asking my Team, my Queens, and just random folks   about their attitudes on how they feel   about the people they hang around and if those people are a reflection of who you are and even what you believe. As, a life coach   friendship is an area that I spend a lot of time on   with my clients because rather we like it or not the people whom we allow into our circle does impact the perceptions that people may have on us. But I also want to dig a little deeper because we know that the definition of   friendship is a shared commonality between two people. So these are few observations that I have made, remember it’s not the gospel  -           Levels of friendship o    I have never been one to group my friends in one general category because in my world all my friends are not created equal. I have my “ Turn Up” crew people who I   have...

I was strolling through my facbook time line and I saw this article not only was it interesting and true and I waned to share it with you all.. Can you believe that it’s already December? This year has flown by in the blink of an eye and we’re on the verge of yet another year — a year full of possibility. What you will accomplish next year greatly depends on the people you surround yourself with. Or, in other words, it greatly depends on which people you decide not to surround yourself with. When bringing in the new year, be sure not to bring all your garbage with you. Leave these toxic individuals in 2014; you’ll feel much lighter, allowing you to get a great running start on the year to come. 1. The people who make your life more stressful. Stress isn’t necessarily a bad thing — in fact, it’s what you make it out to be. If you believe stress is bad for you, then it will be bad for you. If you use stress as the motivator it is, to motivate you to act, th...

It was brought to my attention that although I talk about everything else under the sun, that I really never talk about sex and intimacy. As you guys know that I often try to help by giving you personal experiences from my own life. No, this does not mean that I am virgin  or that I do not enjoy sex. So here we go... I personally believe that intimacy or the lack of it can strengthen or weaken a relationship, let's  be honest, everyone wants to feel wanted especially by the person that you love and loves you back. I think we often mistake intimacy with sex, and although that is one facet of being intimates, there levels to this shit ... lol Be Connected Intimacy in a nutshell is being close and connected to someone not just on a physical level but an emotional one as well. For example, I like stolen glances and I do not mean "staring" because that can creepy but I love it when I look up and he's looking at me or when I am getting dressed for work and I look back...

As I sit down at the Kitchen table  and I let Beyonce' flood through my ears, I am thirty minutes away from my 28th birthday, it is crazy because there was a time that I didn't beleive that I would live to see 28 let alone would have accomplished so much. If you would have told me that I would be where I am right now in life, I would not have believed you, I would have straight called you a "liar" but I want to take time to thank GOD, my family and everyone that I love for not giving up on me even when I had counted myself out, you all never lost faith in ME. So, here I am , READY FOR THE WORLD and all it has to offer me, I am not turning back or around. When I am done, all I want is for the people I leave behind to say " She lived a great life".  I have so many dreams that I had given up on that I have went back and accomplished and so many yet to still dream. I am not perfect and I will never be but I will always give my all, I will leave my mark on this...

"This Is Me.." is a collection of poetry the chronicles my life from childhood to adulthood. This book has truly been a life time in the making, I discovered the healing powers of writing when I was young girl being called on to provide words of peace and encouragement at family funerals and functions. I embraced the healing powers of words and writing became like therapy to me. Making the decision to publish this book was a really hard one because although I devote my life to helping others and I am now a pretty open person, this book digs deep into my issue's with insecurity,  my family relationship, my personal relationships, my faith and relationship with God. I not only pulled stories from my own life but from the lives of others that impacted me. It took a lot of prayer to get me to the point where I can truly bare myself entirely to anyone who wants to read and I am not doing for the money or fame, I am doing it because I spent so much of my life, not living...

Free yourself from negative people Let go of those who are already gone Give people that you dont know a far chance Show everyone kindness and respect Accept people just the way they are Encourage others and cheet for them  Be your imperfectly perfect self Forgive people and move foward Do little thinhs everyday for others Always be loyal Stay in better touch with those who matter to you Keep Promises and tell the truth give what you want to recieve Say what you mean and mean what you say Allow others to make their own decisions Talk a little less and listen more Leave petty arguments alone Pay attention to your relationship with yourself Pay attention to who your real friends are Ignore hurtful unconstructive commentary

Love and accept yourself Who is going to love your better. In order for you to step into your calling, you first you have to not only who you  are but you have to love and accept yourself for all that you are, Feel connected and not alone Relationships are a very important part in life because we all need to be connected to something or someone. So rebuild those old relationships that you let slip away and create new ones. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, don’t allow yourself to be lonely. Know what you want out of life What's s GPS without a destination, know what your purpose is in life and GO FOR IT, remember that failure is not the end it is just the beginning of a new journey. Have a healthy relationship with money Learn to budget and to save, the best way to have a healthy relationship with money is to first have an healthy relationship with yourself most of the time we ...

These were my top 4 picks of the night, if you submitted a question I will respond within the next 24 hours. Don;t forget to submit your questions to truerevelationscoaching@outlook.com Q: My girl has this thing where as she likes to hook her friends up with my friends and honestly i don't like it, I think it is cause for more drama. What do you think? A: Communication is most important when it comes to this situation because honestly her heart is in the right place, I think without knowing her. I was that way at one point, you are so in love that you want your friends to feel what you feel but she has to realize that y'all relationship is unique to y'all two. So, sit her down , tell her how you feel but you know her heart is in the right place but everyone has to find love for themselves. Q: I want my ex back, I am man enough  to admit that I did some things in the past that were cowardly because I wasn't mentally ready for the commitment but now I am ready d...

Q: Recently me and one of my closest friends just stopped talking, she kind of betrayed me and I decided to not deal with her anymore but at the same time I still have some things on my chest, what should i do? A: Do you still have her contact information, I would reach out to her and have a real sit down and just air it out. But I do caution you this, it has to be two sided so you also have to give her a chance to clear her chest as well. I did it once with an old friend and at the end of the convo we decided that it wasn't worth trying to rebuild the trust but we could at least be civil. I mean we all have at least two friends that are fun to hang out with but we don't share secrets with.  Q: I just read your last post about 9 steps to a better life but my question to you is how important is it to have a support team and can you make it without one? A: I think that having a support team around you could truly make your journey smoother but like...

I  believe  in being completely honest with myself, my family and my audience. This is an entry that I tweeked from my own online journal and it is also a section in book I am writing called  " Whispers in the dark " which  chronicles  my journey from a broken depressed young girl to a happy life loving young woman that I am today but I still have bad days.  There comes a time in everyone life where they will have to make a decision. Well, about a month ago I had my gallbladder removed and the surgery had some complications when it came to the breathing tube due some scar tissue from a previous surgery.  It took a while to admit this but that scared me because that surgery prior took my voice, I walked around for a year with a tube in my throat and for a girl that was already in secure that pushed me over the edge and retreated into the darkness and although I didn’t know it then I can see it now.  So, since the surgery I...

As I have stated in my last post, that I was very insecure growing up and there were varous contributing factors that led to that but I refuse to dwell on the past because now when i look in the mirror I not only love the person that is staring back at me but I also appreciate her. Learning to love myself and accept all of who I am was very hard for me because I always felt different but then after years of self torture I know that being different is not a negative thing. I also know that there are some young girls and some women who still deal with issues of insecurities and we all do regardless is you admit or not but right now I am all about sharing my story and my journey, so here I am for the world to see. The email address on this is incorrect the proper email address is : truerevelationscoaching@outlook.com and you can sign up for a coaching session at truerevelations.webs.com

I remember when I was younger every time I would say something about someone that was nice she would say " I know you not throwing stones in your glass house", and of course because I love my grandmother I took heed to her words but I would be a hypocrite if I didn’t say that over my years that I have thrown my fair share of rocks and I have some thrown at me. But now at the ripe age of 27, I now fully understand what my grandmothers has been trying to tell me all those years ago. I may not be perfect but I have been on a journey of treating others the way I want to be treated but it really bothers when people throw stones especially when they  discriminatory, stereotypical, and just ridiculous.   How can  we as people say that one group of people is greater than another because at one point in life we have all been enslaved. Who are you that you can afford to judge others?  What makes you superior to others because if we are honest with each other then we...