Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

You know there is a difference between, “Loving someone and being in love with someone”. Growing up, I believed that this concept was only applied to relationships of the romantic variety but I was sadly mistaking.   If, you follow me then you know that I have been through a lot but 2016 was a turning year and I lost a lot but I found someone who had been missing for awhile and that was me. So, I have spent the last year and a half falling in love with myself and my perfect flaws.   It is so crazy when I think back because I not it has me questioning every time I said “I love you” to someone how much truth was behind it. I mean really can you love someone, I mean truly love someone if you are not truly in love with yourself. Don’t get me wrong I love me, I think I am very special person but I was not in love with myself which basically led me to become a slave to the preconceived notions of who people think I should be instead of living my own truth. Recently, ...

Happy Sunday Team : I know it has been a LONG while I appreciate you guys allowing me the time to deal with my personal life issues while I rebuild myself from the inside out.  So, since I believe in being totally translucent with you guys. I will give you a snapshot of how I have been  since we last spoke and where I am now.  In a nutshell I did not really deal with the lost of my grandmother in 2017 and that depression slowly but surely crept into every aspect of my life. I  was settling and loosing myself to this world. I somehow lost my connection with my higher power, if I am being honest I was mad at God because he had removed another great woman from life. I appreciated all the blessing he bestowed upon me but I was still kind of hurt by the lost and because of that me and God became like distant friends, I acknowledge who he was but I did not seek him out . So, this leads me to where I am today?  After a series of both life changing and devastat...

Whispers in the dark is my new podcast that will be posted every Thursday at 9pm est. This podcast will be very different because not only will i be giving you a no ho'ds barred life lessons like always but i will be sharing my journey. 2016 was indeed my best and worst year but this podcast chronicles how i turned my tragedy into triumph.

What causes people to Cheat ??? Its a question that no one really knows the answer to unless they have actually cheated. I personally have not cheated because I do not like keeping track with lies, I would most likely tell on myself lol but truthfully I have been cheated on and I remember how it impacted me emotionally, physically and mentally. That is what this post all about dealing with the residual effects because although I honestly believe that cheating has more to do with the cheater than their companion unfortunately the companion becomes a victim of their internal war. Be Hurt, Not Angry I know that is easier said than done but truth is the first is to not lash out because you unknowingly give them the satisfaction of having control over you which in some cases is like feeding the beast, you lash out and they say I know you would act like that, that's why i didn't tell you. KEEP your POWER. But you are allowed to feel hu...

I came into the New Year with so much confusion and emotional turmoil but after reconnecting to my purpose and letting go of the past. It is a continuing process but the end peace in better than living in your own personal hell. I know that we all going through something but the worst thing that we can do is allow ourselves to succumb to the darkness and accept what is for what will be. These are a few steps that I have taken and hopefully. 1.        Respect your process a.      A couple of days ago I was talking to my Step mom and I was saying how I feel like I am stuck in my own mind and she said “What if there is where you need to be”. It took a while but it clicked that for me being in my own mind was a part of my process. I am not sure what your process might be but I am telling you to respect it and allow yourself to go through the process. 2.       Loose Control a.   ...

I saw this on lifehack and decidied to share it because nothing is as bad as you believe as long as you continue to believe in something better ... 1. You’ve lived and learned No one said life was easy and while the bumps on the road may hurt, the ride is definitely worth it.  Think back to your failures and defeats. You must know they were all for a reason and part of a grander plan.  Each difficulty has led you to where you are at today, each trial has molded you into the magnificent, resilient, person that you are. Continue to move forward in faith, hope and love, knowing that each experience has taught you what you need to become who you were born to be. 2. You have a comfy bed to sleep in I’ll never forget an interview done on NPR a while back. A young Haitian mother told her story. She had little ones that constantly wondered when they would be able to eat and go to school like all the other kids around them. What impacted m...