Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Happy Sunday Team : I know it has been a LONG while I appreciate you guys allowing me the time to deal with my personal life issues while I rebuild myself from the inside out.  So, since I believe in being totally translucent with you guys. I will give you a snapshot of how I have been  since we last spoke and where I am now.  In a nutshell I did not really deal with the lost of my grandmother in 2017 and that depression slowly but surely crept into every aspect of my life. I  was settling and loosing myself to this world. I somehow lost my connection with my higher power, if I am being honest I was mad at God because he had removed another great woman from life. I appreciated all the blessing he bestowed upon me but I was still kind of hurt by the lost and because of that me and God became like distant friends, I acknowledge who he was but I did not seek him out . So, this leads me to where I am today?  After a series of both life changing and devastat...

This post was a special request from one of my followers. If you are not familiar with this song by Kash Doll I suggest that you listen before we jump into this blog. I actually like this song mainly because when I listen to it I can hear myself on both sides of the conversation. It is almost like the older arguing with the younger me. If we are honest as women we can say that at some point even if we didn't act on we have been both  sides of this story both knowingly and unknowingly. Although, I could take this song and the underlying topics in this song I decided to give my ladies work because I have already spoke so much on side chicks versus wives. I decided to take a different route and give the ladies some tell tell signs to show if your man is " FOR EVERYBODY" 1. If when you ask him where yall stand he tells you " What's understood does not have to be explained " , that is a nice way that says I am not really ready for relationship but when I...

This is by far the hardest thing I must write in a while but the only way to get through is to go through. So here I go Mother’s Day this year was the hardest. You may ask how your mother has been dead for 18 years now but it still hurts but this year was different because my paternal grandmother wasn’t here. It was like a double heart break and although I spent the day with my maternal grandma my heart was still aching. I have tried since she passed away to cope to implement the tools she instilled in me on how to deal with death. Never question God and I haven’t. Trust God’s word and I have. My grandma taught me so many lessons, she has so much faith in me, in family but the one thing she never taught me was how to live with her. When she passed away I asked the question, “How do you heal your hurt, when your hero dies?”  I wish I had answer but I don’t and have been slowly spiraling that has come to a silent but emotional head on Mother’s Day.  I have going to throug...

  Last night as I set in the wings of St. Paul’s Baptist Church with my sister flanking me. As I sat there and let the message that Dr. Watson was feeding my soul about how in order to move forwards you have to let go. He said you have to bury your past completely before you can truly enjoy your present for your future has not yet to come.   Listening to these words I felt something in my soul snap as 30 years of baggage of pain and confusion started to flood my mind and soul and something in me snapped. I realized before I can truly enjoy my breakthrough, I would have to first allow myself to break down completely and bury the past. Its only one way I know how to do that and that is to allow my hands to hit these keys. No one will know it to look at me or to even converse with me that I am silently suffering in the inside. Ever since I was child, I felt like I was a magnet for bad stuff to happen to me and somewhere I just learn to accept it but never show it to the...

This has been on my mind for a while so yall know that I would not be me if I didn’t express this. You see I am currently taking courses at Liberty University as I expand my own knowledge and I also get to learn more about the Lord which is a double major for me. But as I build my relationship with God, he often speaks to me. A week ago I saved a picture quote on my phone that read, “Stop watering things that were never meant to grow in your life”, funny thing is the quote was posted by Bishop TD Jakes. Now if you follow me on any of my social media pages then you would know that I post a lot of inspirational and thought provoking stuff but something about this quote just stuck to me and as I stroll down my time and I notice the turmoil of not only the world with all the violence but people and their individual lives and God spoke so clearly when he told me I had to expound upon this the meaning behind the message. I see so many people trying to breathe life into a situa...