Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Would you believe me if I told you that at thirty years old I have never truly lived alone?   I have been in and out of relationship for the last seventeen years of my life? I have a big family that is very close knit? I have never been alone and to be honest now as I sit down I finally come to the conclusion that although I have always had someone in my life, I have always been lonely. Most people get that confused because I know that I did because I thought being alone and being lonely where the same thing but I was sadly mistaken. As I clung tightly to people and bad relationship I was slowly loosing myself until December 31 st 2015.   IF you read my blog then you know that at Watch Night Service 2015 I had a break down but I now see that is something that I needed in order to get to where I needed to be. I stayed in relationships, clung onto people not because I had a fear of being alone because to be honest the best times I have is when I am by myself...

I came into the New Year with so much confusion and emotional turmoil but after reconnecting to my purpose and letting go of the past. It is a continuing process but the end peace in better than living in your own personal hell. I know that we all going through something but the worst thing that we can do is allow ourselves to succumb to the darkness and accept what is for what will be. These are a few steps that I have taken and hopefully. 1.        Respect your process a.      A couple of days ago I was talking to my Step mom and I was saying how I feel like I am stuck in my own mind and she said “What if there is where you need to be”. It took a while but it clicked that for me being in my own mind was a part of my process. I am not sure what your process might be but I am telling you to respect it and allow yourself to go through the process. 2.       Loose Control a.   ...

It is crazy because when I sit down to write tonight this was suppose to be going into my new book , but I decided to share it with all you because ," Why Not", I share everything with you all anyway. For the last two days I have been a state of semi solitude, I have been feeling under the weather, overwhelmed and exhausted but this week I think my body gave in because it knew that my mind truly needed the break.  So, I took two days to rejuvenate my mind and communicate with my higher being, God speaks to me but only when I am fully surrendered in prayer and silence. So, for two days we have been having an ongoing debate , yeah I said I was debating with God, I mean he created me he knows first hand how stubborn I am but only until about a couple of hours I go after talking to my pops, my moment of clarity came. I have never been afraid of the challenge, of the trying my hand at the impossible, my resume is flooded with accomplishments but my worst fear is not failu...

So, nornally I would do Sister to Sister during Coach's Corner but last night I kind of got causht up in the topic and I ran out of time, but I did read and respond to all of my questions but I will be posting the top two which was about the topic of "Friend".. Q.: Do you feel that length of a friendship is equal to the quality of  friendship? A. : I think that is a common misconception when it comes for friendships, I believe the "No New Friends" was taken out of context. I think that quality always outweighs longevity because sometimes we just outgrow people and as we get older our lives changes henceforth what we look for in friendship does as well. I am not saying cut off your old friends but just evaluate and make sure you have all your friends in the right "section: of your life. Q.: I have a male friend and we have been friends every since I could remember but I have recently found out that he has has intimate feelings for me for the las...

Coach Destiny, I have a group of friends we have been friends for a very long time but i have noticed that recently we don't have the same goals and ambitions.  often time i am just bored being around them. How  do you know when you have outgrown a friendship?   Chelsea I want you first to ask yourself is there any other reason why you are so disengaged with your friends. Do you have other friends?  Why are you still friends with them?  I think that you have to self explore a little,  we all have old friends that we may not speak often and we have friends that we speak with daily. After some exploration, if you do not have anything in common with them then maybe you should move forward in life but still be friendly cause good friends are hard to come by Coach Destiny I never really see you post anything about sex but I have a sex problem . I kind of overhead my boyfriend talking to his boys and he basically said "my sex was boring". I don't...

I saw this article on Oprah.com and I wanted to share it with you all... Though no one likes it, each of us will find ourselves broken at some point in our journey. When we find ourselves there, what do we do? I've been broken many times—through illness, through the loss of a job, through the derailment of a dream and most recently, through the death of my father. For all of this, I can offer a mysterious truth that life has given me: that we are stronger, gentler, more resilient and more beautiful than we imagine, and that the resource we call life is never far away. I know this because every time my heart has been shattered, I have felt certain that it could never be put back together. And every time, without exception, not only has my heart mended but it has become larger, stronger and more loving for the breaking. The mysterious and unfailing journey of how this happens is the ordinary art of staying awake. It involves the deep and continuous act of being pr...