Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

You know there is a difference between, “Loving someone and being in love with someone”. Growing up, I believed that this concept was only applied to relationships of the romantic variety but I was sadly mistaking.   If, you follow me then you know that I have been through a lot but 2016 was a turning year and I lost a lot but I found someone who had been missing for awhile and that was me. So, I have spent the last year and a half falling in love with myself and my perfect flaws.   It is so crazy when I think back because I not it has me questioning every time I said “I love you” to someone how much truth was behind it. I mean really can you love someone, I mean truly love someone if you are not truly in love with yourself. Don’t get me wrong I love me, I think I am very special person but I was not in love with myself which basically led me to become a slave to the preconceived notions of who people think I should be instead of living my own truth. Recently, ...

Happy Sunday Team : I know it has been a LONG while I appreciate you guys allowing me the time to deal with my personal life issues while I rebuild myself from the inside out.  So, since I believe in being totally translucent with you guys. I will give you a snapshot of how I have been  since we last spoke and where I am now.  In a nutshell I did not really deal with the lost of my grandmother in 2017 and that depression slowly but surely crept into every aspect of my life. I  was settling and loosing myself to this world. I somehow lost my connection with my higher power, if I am being honest I was mad at God because he had removed another great woman from life. I appreciated all the blessing he bestowed upon me but I was still kind of hurt by the lost and because of that me and God became like distant friends, I acknowledge who he was but I did not seek him out . So, this leads me to where I am today?  After a series of both life changing and devastat...

Hey Team : You all know how much I love music so you should know i was here for this entire Jay Z 4:44 album I  mean I could literally blog about every single song because of the significance of the music.  Jay Z's  latest album is not for entertainment but for enlightenment so only the truly mature can relate. NO SHADE LOL !! So the first track on the album is called Kill Jay-Z and the entire song is about a battle between  Ego and self this battle is something exist in all of us.  In 2016 i made my fist conscious decision to actively engage in walking my purpose which meant that in order to become the best version of myself then i had to first kill the old me. We all have things in our lives that we need to let go or kill so i have a three major things that in order to truly live your best life. 1. EGO : This has got to go it will only get in your way. Your ego will tell you not to ask for help even when your drowning.  We all have short comings we...

Happy Sunday Team: I trust that everyone had a very productive week and if not I want to share a few steps that you need to overcomer to get out of your way and push towards your purpose and prosperity. 1)       Worry or Pray but you can’t do both : Stop worrying about things that you cannot change and focus on the things that you can. Give your worries to higher power and trust in the path that is laid out for you. 2)       Be Accountable : Stop blaming other people for where you are in life because at the end of the day our decisions put us where we are but we have a choice to learn and progress or complain and stay where we are. 3)       Be realistic : Stop expecting perfection from others when you are not perfect. You cannot expect what you don’t project. 4)       Remove CAN’T from your vocabulary : No further explanation is needed just do it 5)    ...

Although I know she does not need my shameless I am telling you that if you have not heard Mary J’s new album, Strength of Woman. Then you need to listen and take notes because that album stays on repeat I must listen to it at least every other day. But that leads me to the one of my favorite song “Glow Up”. If you have ever been in relationship and the break up was not very amical then you know about the “Glow Up” that need show your ex what they have missing that the grass is not greener on the other side per se. I am by no means anti glow up but I feel that it can lead you down two paths if you are mental is not right. It can lead to growing up and becoming better or it can lead to self-destruction and I am here to show the path to latter. These are few ways to make sure that your GLOW up doesn’t BLOW in your face. 1.        Self-Love don’t Self Loathe: I know the first thing we do when we break up is ask “What is wrong with us “but truth no...

When I tell you that music imitates life when I first heard this song by Lloyd I fell in love with it because it described how I was feeling because over the last year in a half I have been in state of reconstruction and in that state I lost a lot. I mean at times I felt like I was on the verge of losing my mind but what I discovered was worth the eternal war that waged.      When I decided in 2013-2014 that I decided to embark on facet and “Coach Destiny” was created and it opened a lot of avenues for me and my brand.   I was always into life coaching and helping people so that part of me has always been but if you have followed me then you   know that I growing up I dealt with a lot a insecurities as well so actually allowing myself and image was very foreign to me. My cousin presented an opportunity to be apart of online radio show “Catching the Scoop” which introduced me to a whole new audience of people and that along with social media my brand als...

So, for the last couple of days I have been asking my Team, my Queens, and just random folks   about their attitudes on how they feel   about the people they hang around and if those people are a reflection of who you are and even what you believe. As, a life coach   friendship is an area that I spend a lot of time on   with my clients because rather we like it or not the people whom we allow into our circle does impact the perceptions that people may have on us. But I also want to dig a little deeper because we know that the definition of   friendship is a shared commonality between two people. So these are few observations that I have made, remember it’s not the gospel  -           Levels of friendship o    I have never been one to group my friends in one general category because in my world all my friends are not created equal. I have my “ Turn Up” crew people who I   have...

If you are following me on any social media then you know that I am in the process of writing a book which is called “bare Soul” everything about this book is raw as it is a collection of journal entries and life trials but most importantly it’s a way to for me to heal and also truly discover myself. The one thing I have drawn from my current set of pages is that I am indeed scared of lonely. There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. Although, I need the definition in my mind and how I lived my life conflicted with that. You see ever since I can remember I have always been in the group, I have never really truly lived alone, my family is big and I have never worked a job that required solitude. But if you ask me or people close to me, they would say I never go out, I prefer being in the house by myself but yet my worse fear is being alone or is it?   When my mom died if created void inside of me and I was and at times still am afraid of losing s...