Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

You know there is a difference between, “Loving someone and being in love with someone”. Growing up, I believed that this concept was only applied to relationships of the romantic variety but I was sadly mistaking.   If, you follow me then you know that I have been through a lot but 2016 was a turning year and I lost a lot but I found someone who had been missing for awhile and that was me. So, I have spent the last year and a half falling in love with myself and my perfect flaws.   It is so crazy when I think back because I not it has me questioning every time I said “I love you” to someone how much truth was behind it. I mean really can you love someone, I mean truly love someone if you are not truly in love with yourself. Don’t get me wrong I love me, I think I am very special person but I was not in love with myself which basically led me to become a slave to the preconceived notions of who people think I should be instead of living my own truth. Recently, ...

It’s been a long time and I have so much more to talk about because there is so much going in the world but because May is Mental Health Awareness Month I wanted to touch on the issue.   You all know that I love music, so when I heard this song by Shawn Mendes it immediately spoke to me. If you know me or follow then you know that I lost my mother when I was 14 years old and honestly it is a wound that never heals. I endure but I miss her daily. But on top of that me and my mother has other issues; my father said we are so much alike that we repelled each other.   Nevertheless, my mother passed away and I felt guilty and hurt but I never had time to truly process that pain.   In most black family, we endure “God never gives us more than we handle” and we push on. But the pain doesn’t go away it just fest almost like a smoldering volcano. So, my life went and I had some great accomplishment but I also had some tragic lows.   In, my senior year of high ...

Happy Sunday Team: I trust that everyone had a very productive week and if not I want to share a few steps that you need to overcomer to get out of your way and push towards your purpose and prosperity. 1)       Worry or Pray but you can’t do both : Stop worrying about things that you cannot change and focus on the things that you can. Give your worries to higher power and trust in the path that is laid out for you. 2)       Be Accountable : Stop blaming other people for where you are in life because at the end of the day our decisions put us where we are but we have a choice to learn and progress or complain and stay where we are. 3)       Be realistic : Stop expecting perfection from others when you are not perfect. You cannot expect what you don’t project. 4)       Remove CAN’T from your vocabulary : No further explanation is needed just do it 5)    ...

I woke up at 4am on November 1 st and something in my spirit was stirred. I was emotional woke up crying but for the life of me I could not tell you the cause of the tears. I was not in pain, I was not angry but my I was unsettled and I could not fathom what was happening. However, like I always do I pressed on with my day then I got a notification from Facebook, you know the one when they show your memories from that day and two years ago my status was about how much pain and uncertainty I was in about my life and I was tired. I read and disregard it until I got a call later that night from my love and it clicked. On, New Year’s Eve I sat in the audience at St. Paul’s watch night service and my life changed. I decided to become the person I was created to be. I was no longer settling and I was going to follow my heart and take a faith walk.   The naïve me wanted to know to believe that my struggle would come to cease with that declaration but it was just the opposi...

The one thing that I have noticed when I began to come into my own, to follow my purpose and to allow God the freedom to work in your life also gives you so much clarity on other things. This week I have been dealing with " Hate" and the face that people can just show so much disdain for another person's position in life  without looking at the path that was taken to get  there. So, this post " Haters" 1. Haters do not really hate you,they hate themselves : You see when a person gives up on themselves and their dreams, they begin to despise everyone who didn't.  So, truthfully they don't hate you, they hate themselves for giving up. 2. LOVE conquers HATE : The best thing you can do to address a HATER is to just LOVE them,  pray that they make peace with their lives and find the strength to pursue their own dreams. 3. Don't let a HATER deter you from your DESTINY :   Never let the negativity of one , stop you from moving forward in you li...

You know that I love my music especially when I can relate it to some real life issues , but this song by Seyvn Streeter who by the way has an awesome EP, has  had me thinking all week mainly because I can honestly say that I have and currently in this situation. If you know me personally then you know that for as long as I have been old enough to date that I have had only  one true love in my life, however about two in a half years ago after knowing each other for most of our childhood we decided to separate which at first was very hard for me because I had grown so attached but in the end I can say that it was the best decision that we both made because it gave us both a chance to grow as adults and to see what we want out of life and more importantly to reevaluate who it is that we want to be with. So, after two in a half years of loving and hating each other and giving each other space and actually looking at what we want about eight months ago we decided to g...

Yall know how I love to bring you guys things that I feel will help you be more productive in life, I saw this article online and decided to share it with all of you ... Hope you implement some of these steps into your daily living  #1. Start spending time with the right people.  – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally. #2. Start facing your problems head on.  – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run. #3. Start being honest wi...

As I often do.. I happen to be strolling the net researching somethings for my first "relationships" seminar/ workshops  and I ran pass this  article and I wanted to share with all my babies out there who might be sabotaging their own relationships.. Here you 5 relationship Killers : Bad Habit #1: Worrying About What Other People Think Everyone wants and needs different things in their relationships. Don't get caught up in what other people want or what your friends are doing.  Concentrate on creating a relationship with your partner that works for the both of you.  Bad Habit #2: Letting Your Ego Get in the Way One of the biggest relationship mistakes is getting caught up in trying to be right in an argument. When you're focusing on proving your partner wrong and getting them to acknowledge that you're right, you lose sight of what you're really trying to do—resolve a problem. Drop your ego, and instead focus on creating a space where each of ...

It was brought to my attention that although I talk about everything else under the sun, that I really never talk about sex and intimacy. As you guys know that I often try to help by giving you personal experiences from my own life. No, this does not mean that I am virgin  or that I do not enjoy sex. So here we go... I personally believe that intimacy or the lack of it can strengthen or weaken a relationship, let's  be honest, everyone wants to feel wanted especially by the person that you love and loves you back. I think we often mistake intimacy with sex, and although that is one facet of being intimates, there levels to this shit ... lol Be Connected Intimacy in a nutshell is being close and connected to someone not just on a physical level but an emotional one as well. For example, I like stolen glances and I do not mean "staring" because that can creepy but I love it when I look up and he's looking at me or when I am getting dressed for work and I look back...