As I often do.. I happen to be strolling the net researching somethings for my first "relationships" seminar/ workshops and I ran pass this article and I wanted to share with all my babies out there who might be sabotaging their own relationships.. Here you 5 relationship Killers :
Bad Habit #1: Worrying About What Other People Think
Everyone wants and needs different things in their relationships. Don't get caught up in what other people want or what your friends are doing. Concentrate on creating a relationship with your partner that works for the both of you.
Everyone wants and needs different things in their relationships. Don't get caught up in what other people want or what your friends are doing. Concentrate on creating a relationship with your partner that works for the both of you.
Bad Habit #2: Letting Your Ego Get in the Way
One of the biggest relationship mistakes is getting caught up in trying to be right in an argument. When you're focusing on proving your partner wrong and getting them to acknowledge that you're right, you lose sight of what you're really trying to do—resolve a problem. Drop your ego, and instead focus on creating a space where each of you can share your concerns over the issue. Work as a team to find a solution that makes sense for the both of you.
One of the biggest relationship mistakes is getting caught up in trying to be right in an argument. When you're focusing on proving your partner wrong and getting them to acknowledge that you're right, you lose sight of what you're really trying to do—resolve a problem. Drop your ego, and instead focus on creating a space where each of you can share your concerns over the issue. Work as a team to find a solution that makes sense for the both of you.
Bad Habit #3: Letting The Past Define You OR Your Partner
Past relationships and partners shouldn't be used as a gauge for your current relationship. Negative past experiences aren't proof every relationship you'll ever have will fail. You can learn from your mistakes, and make different choices. Your partner can too. Don't use her past against her. Concentrate on your present and future together.
Past relationships and partners shouldn't be used as a gauge for your current relationship. Negative past experiences aren't proof every relationship you'll ever have will fail. You can learn from your mistakes, and make different choices. Your partner can too. Don't use her past against her. Concentrate on your present and future together.
Bad Habit #4: Holding Grudges
Holding onto your upset over a wrong (or perceived wrong) can poison your relationship over time. Grudges build invisible walls between you and your partner. When you're walking around seething about an old slight, you can't emotionally connect with her, or enjoy trueintimacy. The negative emotions you're feeling get into the way. Creating a strong relationship involves learning how to forgive, forget, and let go of grudges.
Holding onto your upset over a wrong (or perceived wrong) can poison your relationship over time. Grudges build invisible walls between you and your partner. When you're walking around seething about an old slight, you can't emotionally connect with her, or enjoy trueintimacy. The negative emotions you're feeling get into the way. Creating a strong relationship involves learning how to forgive, forget, and let go of grudges.
Bad Habit #5 : Trying to Change Her
Love your partner for who she is, instead of trying to change, or "fix" her. When you try to change her, subconsciously you're rejecting her, and telling her that she's not good enough for you. Strive to create a relationship full of love, acceptance, and support that inspires the both of you to grow and evolve.
Love your partner for who she is, instead of trying to change, or "fix" her. When you try to change her, subconsciously you're rejecting her, and telling her that she's not good enough for you. Strive to create a relationship full of love, acceptance, and support that inspires the both of you to grow and evolve.
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