It was brought to my attention that although I talk about everything else under the sun, that I really never talk about sex and intimacy. As you guys know that I often try to help by giving you personal experiences from my own life. No, this does not mean that I am virgin or that I do not enjoy sex. So here we go...
I personally believe that intimacy or the lack of it can strengthen or weaken a relationship, let's be honest, everyone wants to feel wanted especially by the person that you love and loves you back. I think we often mistake intimacy with sex, and although that is one facet of being intimates, there levels to this shit ... lol
Be Connected
Intimacy in a nutshell is being close and connected to someone not just on a physical level but an emotional one as well. For example, I like stolen glances and I do not mean "staring" because that can creepy but I love it when I look up and he's looking at me or when I am getting dressed for work and I look back and he's smiling at me . Those simple gestures make me feel desired
Communication
If you do not know, words are SEXY especially when they are said by the right person in the right way but communication can also enhance your intimacy, I always thought it was crazy how so many people can have sex but yet they can't talk about it with their partner. I am writer /speaker and he is a movie junkie, so you can just imagine some of things that come out of our mouths and whether it leaves us sweating or laughing in the end it brought us closer together which is the main point of intimacy
Know Yourself
This is not me giving you permission to masturbate but what I am saying is that a lot of people do not know themselves. You need to know what turns you on and what doesn't and you need to communicate those needs to your partner I mean there nothing worse than a blind man shooting a gun ( if you get what I am saying)
Know Your Partner
Ladies, not everyone man wants a porn star but that doesn't mean he wants a nun either, you have to figure out what kind of woman your partner wants not just in the bedroom but all together and decide if the image they are painting is a picture of you. Learn what turns him on and what he doesn't like. Trust me it will surprise and save you a headache all at the same time.
Love Making is a Team Sport
This is why I always stress there is a difference from having sex and fucking, because fucking is selfish where having sex or making love which is the same thing in my opinion is a team sport where both people are concerned with making sure the person "scores". If you are only concerned with your own pleasure then you will never truly experience how great love making can be.
This all that I got for you guys right now... if you have an topic, questions or just in need of some life coaching please feel free to contact me at coachdestiny@truerevelationscoaching.com I will answer your email within 48 hours.
I personally believe that intimacy or the lack of it can strengthen or weaken a relationship, let's be honest, everyone wants to feel wanted especially by the person that you love and loves you back. I think we often mistake intimacy with sex, and although that is one facet of being intimates, there levels to this shit ... lol
Be Connected
Intimacy in a nutshell is being close and connected to someone not just on a physical level but an emotional one as well. For example, I like stolen glances and I do not mean "staring" because that can creepy but I love it when I look up and he's looking at me or when I am getting dressed for work and I look back and he's smiling at me . Those simple gestures make me feel desired
Communication
If you do not know, words are SEXY especially when they are said by the right person in the right way but communication can also enhance your intimacy, I always thought it was crazy how so many people can have sex but yet they can't talk about it with their partner. I am writer /speaker and he is a movie junkie, so you can just imagine some of things that come out of our mouths and whether it leaves us sweating or laughing in the end it brought us closer together which is the main point of intimacy
Know Yourself
This is not me giving you permission to masturbate but what I am saying is that a lot of people do not know themselves. You need to know what turns you on and what doesn't and you need to communicate those needs to your partner I mean there nothing worse than a blind man shooting a gun ( if you get what I am saying)
Know Your Partner
Ladies, not everyone man wants a porn star but that doesn't mean he wants a nun either, you have to figure out what kind of woman your partner wants not just in the bedroom but all together and decide if the image they are painting is a picture of you. Learn what turns him on and what he doesn't like. Trust me it will surprise and save you a headache all at the same time.
Love Making is a Team Sport
This is why I always stress there is a difference from having sex and fucking, because fucking is selfish where having sex or making love which is the same thing in my opinion is a team sport where both people are concerned with making sure the person "scores". If you are only concerned with your own pleasure then you will never truly experience how great love making can be.
This all that I got for you guys right now... if you have an topic, questions or just in need of some life coaching please feel free to contact me at coachdestiny@truerevelationscoaching.com I will answer your email within 48 hours.
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