Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

This post was a special request from one of my followers. If you are not familiar with this song by Kash Doll I suggest that you listen before we jump into this blog. I actually like this song mainly because when I listen to it I can hear myself on both sides of the conversation. It is almost like the older arguing with the younger me. If we are honest as women we can say that at some point even if we didn't act on we have been both  sides of this story both knowingly and unknowingly. Although, I could take this song and the underlying topics in this song I decided to give my ladies work because I have already spoke so much on side chicks versus wives. I decided to take a different route and give the ladies some tell tell signs to show if your man is " FOR EVERYBODY" 1. If when you ask him where yall stand he tells you " What's understood does not have to be explained " , that is a nice way that says I am not really ready for relationship but when I...

Hey Team : You all know how much I love music so you should know i was here for this entire Jay Z 4:44 album I  mean I could literally blog about every single song because of the significance of the music.  Jay Z's  latest album is not for entertainment but for enlightenment so only the truly mature can relate. NO SHADE LOL !! So the first track on the album is called Kill Jay-Z and the entire song is about a battle between  Ego and self this battle is something exist in all of us.  In 2016 i made my fist conscious decision to actively engage in walking my purpose which meant that in order to become the best version of myself then i had to first kill the old me. We all have things in our lives that we need to let go or kill so i have a three major things that in order to truly live your best life. 1. EGO : This has got to go it will only get in your way. Your ego will tell you not to ask for help even when your drowning.  We all have short comings we...

Happy Sunday Team: I trust that everyone had a very productive week and if not I want to share a few steps that you need to overcomer to get out of your way and push towards your purpose and prosperity. 1)       Worry or Pray but you can’t do both : Stop worrying about things that you cannot change and focus on the things that you can. Give your worries to higher power and trust in the path that is laid out for you. 2)       Be Accountable : Stop blaming other people for where you are in life because at the end of the day our decisions put us where we are but we have a choice to learn and progress or complain and stay where we are. 3)       Be realistic : Stop expecting perfection from others when you are not perfect. You cannot expect what you don’t project. 4)       Remove CAN’T from your vocabulary : No further explanation is needed just do it 5)    ...

Although I know she does not need my shameless I am telling you that if you have not heard Mary J’s new album, Strength of Woman. Then you need to listen and take notes because that album stays on repeat I must listen to it at least every other day. But that leads me to the one of my favorite song “Glow Up”. If you have ever been in relationship and the break up was not very amical then you know about the “Glow Up” that need show your ex what they have missing that the grass is not greener on the other side per se. I am by no means anti glow up but I feel that it can lead you down two paths if you are mental is not right. It can lead to growing up and becoming better or it can lead to self-destruction and I am here to show the path to latter. These are few ways to make sure that your GLOW up doesn’t BLOW in your face. 1.        Self-Love don’t Self Loathe: I know the first thing we do when we break up is ask “What is wrong with us “but truth no...

It’s been awhile not that I have not have anything to say but I literally have not had to time to sit down and but my thoughts into words. There is a difference from being busy and working and I have been working trying to create some new opportunities for myself and the ones that I love but there is neither here or there. I am back with an arsenal of issues for us discuss. If there is a topic or an issue you would like for me to address please feel free to send it to me thecoachdestiny@gmail.com So, todays topic is all about Self- Love because I feel that is something that is missing in the world. I have experienced people who are selfish but they don’t love themselves they just guard themselves with materialistic items to make them feel complete. I see people who a searching for love in all the wrong places and people because they are know they are missing it but not knowing that the love they seek comes from within. I like most people confused things with love and I thoug...

I saw this on lifehack and decidied to share it because nothing is as bad as you believe as long as you continue to believe in something better ... 1. You’ve lived and learned No one said life was easy and while the bumps on the road may hurt, the ride is definitely worth it.  Think back to your failures and defeats. You must know they were all for a reason and part of a grander plan.  Each difficulty has led you to where you are at today, each trial has molded you into the magnificent, resilient, person that you are. Continue to move forward in faith, hope and love, knowing that each experience has taught you what you need to become who you were born to be. 2. You have a comfy bed to sleep in I’ll never forget an interview done on NPR a while back. A young Haitian mother told her story. She had little ones that constantly wondered when they would be able to eat and go to school like all the other kids around them. What impacted m...

Saw this on Life hacks and had to share with you all : http://www.lifehack.org/293764/8-habits-that-keep-you-poor-even-with-reasonable-income?mid=20150806&ref=mail&uid=243483&feq=daily Here are the top 8 habits that can sneak into your hard-earned income and eat up your funds. Spending more as your income increases There’s no harm in raising your standard of life when you can. However, if you are a person who is constantly looking for ways to spend your money, you will probably find yourself in a difficult situation soon enough. If you continuously raise your expenditure along with any increase in your income (or even without it), it would be hard to have any real savings. Try to keep your expenditures at a constant level along with exploring ways to increase your income. That’s the route to success! Focusing on the present without caring about the future Usually, when people find it hard to tackle a problem, they choose to ignore it. That’s a sure...

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Coach Destiny, I have a group of friends we have been friends for a very long time but i have noticed that recently we don't have the same goals and ambitions.  often time i am just bored being around them. How  do you know when you have outgrown a friendship?   Chelsea I want you first to ask yourself is there any other reason why you are so disengaged with your friends. Do you have other friends?  Why are you still friends with them?  I think that you have to self explore a little,  we all have old friends that we may not speak often and we have friends that we speak with daily. After some exploration, if you do not have anything in common with them then maybe you should move forward in life but still be friendly cause good friends are hard to come by Coach Destiny I never really see you post anything about sex but I have a sex problem . I kind of overhead my boyfriend talking to his boys and he basically said "my sex was boring". I don't...

For the month of October, I have decided to honor women who are inspiration and empowering. I have been getting mixed reviews on my decision and a lot of people want to know what is in it for me.  That skepticism is exactly why I decided to this every since I was a young girl, I use to keep a list of " stereotypes" of black women and every morning I woke, I had one main goal , DO NOT BECOME A STATISTIC. Every since I could remember I have been different I see life in a rainbow tinted glasses and I live each day to make sure every person that comes into contact with me leaves in a better place both mentally and emotionally. I challenge people to go against the grain, to challenge the status quo and make their dreams a reality. This is why, I decided to start the " I AM" woman empowerment because woman are known to for being " catty" and "back biting" but I do not believe this is true of all women and I want to honor them. I want to show the w...

I saw this article on Oprah.com and I wanted to share it with you all... Though no one likes it, each of us will find ourselves broken at some point in our journey. When we find ourselves there, what do we do? I've been broken many times—through illness, through the loss of a job, through the derailment of a dream and most recently, through the death of my father. For all of this, I can offer a mysterious truth that life has given me: that we are stronger, gentler, more resilient and more beautiful than we imagine, and that the resource we call life is never far away. I know this because every time my heart has been shattered, I have felt certain that it could never be put back together. And every time, without exception, not only has my heart mended but it has become larger, stronger and more loving for the breaking. The mysterious and unfailing journey of how this happens is the ordinary art of staying awake. It involves the deep and continuous act of being pr...

Yall know how I love to bring you guys things that I feel will help you be more productive in life, I saw this article online and decided to share it with all of you ... Hope you implement some of these steps into your daily living  #1. Start spending time with the right people.  – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally. #2. Start facing your problems head on.  – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run. #3. Start being honest wi...

As I often do.. I happen to be strolling the net researching somethings for my first "relationships" seminar/ workshops  and I ran pass this  article and I wanted to share with all my babies out there who might be sabotaging their own relationships.. Here you 5 relationship Killers : Bad Habit #1: Worrying About What Other People Think Everyone wants and needs different things in their relationships. Don't get caught up in what other people want or what your friends are doing.  Concentrate on creating a relationship with your partner that works for the both of you.  Bad Habit #2: Letting Your Ego Get in the Way One of the biggest relationship mistakes is getting caught up in trying to be right in an argument. When you're focusing on proving your partner wrong and getting them to acknowledge that you're right, you lose sight of what you're really trying to do—resolve a problem. Drop your ego, and instead focus on creating a space where each of ...

1. I am in a relationship but we never really go out, all he does is come to my place. We never really go out anywhere, it's been a year and I haven;'t met any of his family or his friends, I don't know what to feel? I am going to assume that you have read some of my post and you know that I am very strait forward and this coming from a place of love. Sweetheart, you are not in a relationship , you are available to person who truly seems to not have any real interest in you besides what you are offering. You know what to feel but you do not want to be alone but  if you honestly ask yourself, which one is wormst be alone or lonely because you are already lonely. I do not know this guy and do not condone male bashing, but my advice would be to have a conversation and real conversation about how you feel and where you stand in his life and from there make a decision that is best for you and your happiness.  2. Coach D, how do you get yourself out of a rut? The advice t...

"This Is Me.." is a collection of poetry the chronicles my life from childhood to adulthood. This book has truly been a life time in the making, I discovered the healing powers of writing when I was young girl being called on to provide words of peace and encouragement at family funerals and functions. I embraced the healing powers of words and writing became like therapy to me. Making the decision to publish this book was a really hard one because although I devote my life to helping others and I am now a pretty open person, this book digs deep into my issue's with insecurity,  my family relationship, my personal relationships, my faith and relationship with God. I not only pulled stories from my own life but from the lives of others that impacted me. It took a lot of prayer to get me to the point where I can truly bare myself entirely to anyone who wants to read and I am not doing for the money or fame, I am doing it because I spent so much of my life, not living...

Love and accept yourself Who is going to love your better. In order for you to step into your calling, you first you have to not only who you  are but you have to love and accept yourself for all that you are, Feel connected and not alone Relationships are a very important part in life because we all need to be connected to something or someone. So rebuild those old relationships that you let slip away and create new ones. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, don’t allow yourself to be lonely. Know what you want out of life What's s GPS without a destination, know what your purpose is in life and GO FOR IT, remember that failure is not the end it is just the beginning of a new journey. Have a healthy relationship with money Learn to budget and to save, the best way to have a healthy relationship with money is to first have an healthy relationship with yourself most of the time we ...

These were my top 4 picks of the night, if you submitted a question I will respond within the next 24 hours. Don;t forget to submit your questions to truerevelationscoaching@outlook.com Q: My girl has this thing where as she likes to hook her friends up with my friends and honestly i don't like it, I think it is cause for more drama. What do you think? A: Communication is most important when it comes to this situation because honestly her heart is in the right place, I think without knowing her. I was that way at one point, you are so in love that you want your friends to feel what you feel but she has to realize that y'all relationship is unique to y'all two. So, sit her down , tell her how you feel but you know her heart is in the right place but everyone has to find love for themselves. Q: I want my ex back, I am man enough  to admit that I did some things in the past that were cowardly because I wasn't mentally ready for the commitment but now I am ready d...

I realized that when looking at my post that I was discuss matters of the heart, trying to find yourself and your purpose. However, your financial wellness is also very important to me and I am always reading articles on how to get my finances in order because like some I was young and dumb but as I grow and mature I want my money to do the same thing. So, I saw this article a while back that I am using the steps to get myself in healthy financial relations ship and I want to share them with you, so here they go. 1. Define Your Goals The first step towards getting all your finances firing on all pistons again is to define your goals. This may seem simple, but chances are that the reason you’ve landed yourself in a sticky situation is because you’ve lost sight of the bigger picture. Where did all your money go? And where should it have been going? Were you plunking money down on a souped up sports car and a gargantuan flat screen TV when you really wanted to save up for a...