Q: How do I get my girl and my baby momma to be cool with each other because they are always arguing and I feel like I am stuck in between a rock and a hard place?
A: Well, I am going to give you kudos for trying but you can not force two people to get along with each other but what you can do is demand respect and common decency. I would recommend a sit down conversation and let them know that they have to do better and set aside their personal beef for the sake of your child and the relationship. It is sad that two women can come together and at least be civil but you have to set boundaries s and then you have to stick to them and be willing to action if they are not willing to abide those boundaries whether it be leaving your girl or going the courts involved. I know it seem harsh but when there is a child involved , you have to do what is best for them and their lives.
Q: I am in a relationship and I really think that I am falling for this girl but it is like I can't get around this wall that she has up, what should I do?
A: Just from what you are telling me, I am going to take a shot and say she has some trust issues. She may have been hurt in the past and is reluctant to put herself out there again. So, what you need to do first is to communicate to her how you are feeling, be honest and let her know that you are there for her and then you will have to be patient because if she loves you then the wall will fall but it will take time.
Q: How do I get people to stop treating my like the average nigga, I mean I smoke and drink but that don't mean I am not trying to do better because I am ?
A: I have so many places I can when it comes to this question but let me start with this, have you every heard of "guilty by association". Take a quick inventory of your core group of friends, Do they smoke ? Do they drink? Are they ordinary niggas? , If you answered yes to any ot these and I know you did then that is why people treat you that way. I am not saying to leave your old friends behind but elevate your surroundings, get you a mentor , try new things and take them with you. Once you stop acting like an ordinary nigga then people will treat you like an exttaordinary young man,
Q: How do I change?
A: I feel like there is something deeper in this question but anyway, the best way to change is to first find out, Why you want to change. When you figure out the reason for the change whether it be family, love, or just growth then you will be on the path to change. There is no blueprint on changing your life, it's a journey where you will explore new things, take wrong turns, get lost and visit amazing road stops. You just have to be open to it. Hope this helps.
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