Ladies, why do we have to come at each others throat when it comes to a man and how come we never hold ourselves or the male accountable for the drama that we put ourselves in. So, let me break it down to you, woman to woman before you can love anyone else you have to first love yourself fully, flaws and all. I know a lot of you, are sucking your teeth and rolling your neck saying " I love ME" but truthfully look at some of the situations that you have put yourself in and then ask yourself " Do I really love ME? If you need some help allow me to elaborate, I have a couple of situations that I have seen over and over in 2012 that may help you answer the question. If you agree or have been in every situation I mention doesn't mean you are a bad person , you may love yourself this is strictly my opinion and you are more than welcomed to disagree.
1. If you fall for unavailable men : If all of your relationships start off by that man being in a relationship with another female. I know the one thing that most people say is " that I have something she doesn't". But ask yourself what is it that you have that she didn't? what did you see in him ? Did you truly see the person or did you see what you wanted? Sometimes we jump in these relationships but never think , that he cheated on his first girl for you, why wont he cheat on you? Remember cheating is about the person that's getting cheated on its about the CHEATER.
2. You don't mind being the "side chick": I hear that by being a side piece, you get all the benefits but none of the headache but truthfully what benefits do you really have being treated like an after thought because truthfully that's what you are . Do you really love yourself when you allow yourself to be so easily disregarded.
3. Going back to bad: I am true believer that people can change and that anything is possible but first you have know that you need to change. Some of us including myself , go back to old relationships that were bad just because it's convenient.
Like mentioned before these are just my opinions they are not the gospel. I feel that as a woman it has taken me a very long time to come to truly love the woman in the mirror. I have spent this past year falling in love with myself and it has indeed been a very emotional learning experience but it has been worth it.
So my challenge for all my ladies in 2013 is to Learn to Love Yourself and then allow others to Love You, the REAL YOU !!
1. If you fall for unavailable men : If all of your relationships start off by that man being in a relationship with another female. I know the one thing that most people say is " that I have something she doesn't". But ask yourself what is it that you have that she didn't? what did you see in him ? Did you truly see the person or did you see what you wanted? Sometimes we jump in these relationships but never think , that he cheated on his first girl for you, why wont he cheat on you? Remember cheating is about the person that's getting cheated on its about the CHEATER.
2. You don't mind being the "side chick": I hear that by being a side piece, you get all the benefits but none of the headache but truthfully what benefits do you really have being treated like an after thought because truthfully that's what you are . Do you really love yourself when you allow yourself to be so easily disregarded.
3. Going back to bad: I am true believer that people can change and that anything is possible but first you have know that you need to change. Some of us including myself , go back to old relationships that were bad just because it's convenient.
Like mentioned before these are just my opinions they are not the gospel. I feel that as a woman it has taken me a very long time to come to truly love the woman in the mirror. I have spent this past year falling in love with myself and it has indeed been a very emotional learning experience but it has been worth it.
So my challenge for all my ladies in 2013 is to Learn to Love Yourself and then allow others to Love You, the REAL YOU !!
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