Baby Can't Make Him Stay

You see there is a big problem that spreading amongst young ladies where they think that by having a man's child then that's how you keep that man. I have to just shake my head on that one because it has to be the dumbest thing anyone has ever thought of. Do you honestly think that if that man does not love you that a kid will make him stay.

You see a real man will take care of his responsibilities and he will love and be obligated to his child but that does not mean he is obligated to you boo. How many times must I address this;  ladies you have to think with what's between your ears and not between your leg. Having a baby can not be like your last resort because you are trying to save your relationship because the only person that get hurts in the end is the child.

Another thing that irritates me do not use your child as a bargaining chip, if the man is taking care of his responsibilities and have moved on with another girl don't try to deprive him of his rights as a father because you don't want him to be with anyone else because in my personal opinion that is what pushes some possible good fathers away and again the only person that get hurt in this game that you play is a child.

Relationships are built on LOVE,TRUST,HONESTY, AND COMMITMENT but it's not built on REPRODUCTION. Ladies, when you try to use  your child to keep a man to be honest it just makes you look THIRSTY and that's not a good look.  You see children are precious gifts from GOD not PAWNS in game that if played this way you will never win. So, do yourself a favor let it go, let that man take care of his child but move on with your life because he's going to move on with his.

Also, don't be pissed at the girl that he's truly in love with because that just a BITCHASS move right there because if they are truly in love then she will love your child like it was her own but she would never step on your toes as mother. Don't disrespect her because it's not her fault that he didn't love you and again it just makes it hard on your child because if you try to box a man in corner in order for him to be with you what will happen if he's a real man, he will send checks, visit on holidays and some weekends, and start a family with the woman he loves and who get hurt, the child.

As women we give life but that's what new life is suppose to be a gift not a leash. Children should be conceived out of love not desperation.So, when you make the decision to lay down and have unprotected sex make sure that you are woman enough to handle all the outcomes that comes along with that decision.