Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Over this last year, I have been on a path of  self discovery which  has led me to confront some truths and fears about myself, my past and how it affects my future  I like most of us are not without fault. I have been very unapologetic about my life choices whether if they were progressive or regressive they have all brought exactly where I am right now in life.  And even though i try to live without regrets there is some pain and confusion in my past that I have held on too especially the things I have done to others. I am not a hateful or even bad person but i was always told that path to hell was paved with good intentions. So, now I am learning to forgive myself and let it go.. I love to read and I was reading this article but Dr. Phil on how forgiving yourself leads to your best life and he even offers steps, so I decided to share them with you ... Step One: Reopen your heart and mind again. When you are faced with terrible pain, your h...

So, I really get frustrated when I hear friends and family talk bad about my last boyfriend in fact he was probably one of my only real boyfriends, my first love to be exact. Don’t get it twisted we went through some things but I don’t like when people blame others for my decisions and actions. I can’t lie and say being in that relationship may have persuaded my perception of things but ultimately it was my decision. This leads me to this general question, “Whose To Blame?????” I always here people and see status updates about how somebody is doing something to someone else, or the world is doing something to you but what I never here is what you are doing to provoke these attacks or a plan to prevent them. We as a people because I use to do it to , are always looking for someone or something thing to blame but we never truly take accountability for our own actions and the state that those actions has left our lives. If you were to look at any situation in your life and wer...

I can honestly admit now anyway that one of my biggest faults and the thing that keeps me from truly attaining all of my goals is that I tend to compare myself and my accomplishments to others. Even to this day it's a struggle but I understand that what's for me is for me and I have learn to accept me for who I am and allow myself to GREAT. I was reading an article online that address the same issues and I wanted to share with you, 1. You are one of a kind. There is literally no one walking this earth quite like you. 2. Life isn’t a competition so pursue what makes you happy in a pace that you are comfortable with. 3. Remind yourself of how wonderful you are. 4. Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem to others. 5. Realize that you won’t always be the best at everything and that’s okay. Try focusing on beating your own best score instead of someone else’s, it will help measure your growth in a healthy way. 6. Be grateful for what you do have and...

So, I don't know about you but I am a music lover and I can honestly set my life by music but I heard this song with Keyshia Cole and Lil Wayne and it was just so honest to my old relationships and so many other relationships for both men and women, When is it time to walk away from a relationship when is there, Enough of no love. We all know or should know that infidelity is never about you but about the other person and their issues but for some reason a lot of people stay in a relationship after they have been cheated on, some stay when they know there is no love and some stay because of time. I am sure there are a slew of other reason but my question is "What makes you stay?". So, I asked a couple of people and even did some soul searching for myself and this is my take on it. : The devil you know is better than the devil you don't", my grandmother use to tell me that when I was younger and I never really understood the meaning behind it until now. For mo...

1.      Make Peace With Your Past a.       The hardest thing for me to do is to “let go” and actually release myself from my past bondage. I had   a tendency of collecting and holding on to the pain, the mistakes, and drama instead of learning from it and leaving it.   I do believe that we should all learn from our past but do not allow it to spoil your future or interrupt your present. 2 .      What others think of YOU is   NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS a.       Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, so what a person thinks about you is just that, Remember, it’s not what you are called but what you are answered too 3.       Time heals ALMOST everything a.       But you have to give time some time, pain, hurt, loss, love, change never happens over night give yourself time. 4.      No one is the reason of yo...

I just realized that I am the most honest when I have my hands on my keyboard, whether it be writing my blog, poetry, short stories. Whenever I write my truth comes out, my pain, my passion and even my confusion.  i was told by doctor once that most great counselors where once extremely messed up patients. it makes sense in a way. Today I feel reached my breaking point where everything in me was lost even my relationship with GOD. I found myself today alone in my room hysterically crying and yelling at GOD. You see my entire life all I ever wanted was a mother's love, I had a mother and I loved her until she died but I never felt that love in return until about a month before she died. That one thing that I wanted for so long and was just about to get and it was taken from me and honestly I never got over it and I am not sure if I ever will. I grew up twelve years of my life feeling like my own mother didn't love me and as soon as I started to feel the love it was snatche...

I was reading this article on OPRAH.COM and decided that I wanted to share it with all of you 1. Get Beyond Denial As long as you're thinking, "That shouldn't have happened or I shouldn't have done that," you're locked in a struggle against reality. Many people pour years of energy into useless "shouldn't haves." The angry ones endlessly repeat that their ex-spouses shouldn't have left them, their parents shouldn't have overfed them, or their bosses shouldn't have made them wear uncomfortable chipmunk costumes in 90-degree heat. Even drearier are the sad ones, who forever drone some version of "If only." If only they'd married Sebastian, or gotten that promotion, or heeded the label's advice not to operate heavy machinery, they would be happy campers instead of les misérables . I call this unproductive regret. People use it to avoid scary or difficult action; instead of telling the story of the past in...