Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Saw this on the website and decided to share : Why Become Still? Inner stillness is the key factor for "hearing" our best lives calling to us. Of course, if we can't get still, our lives still communicate with us, but they often have to shout with such deafening voices that we can't ignore them. Our true selves are always whispering instructions about what we should do next, whether that's changing the world or just changing our attitudes. If we're still enough to hear our own inner voices at this subtle, almost silent level, we tend to choose the course through life that feels most blessed and least traumatic. Obstacles to Getting Still If you've recently suffered pain, loss or great confusion, becoming still may feel threatening. Many of us sustain a high level of mental "noise" so that we won't fully experience the difficult emotions of fear, anger or sadness. Getting still requires being willing to experience these feelings wit...

There comes a time in our life when we have to stop taking a passive stance in life and stand up and fight. We all have a FIGHTER in  us, we just have to embrace it and I am here to give you some pointers on how to do just that. F ind the courage to fight: When you feel like your life is spiraling out of control and that there is nothing that you can do to make it better, I want you get up and stop your pity party. Understand that you are not dead , so you still have a change to make a change, you just have to be willing to fight for it. I gnite the enthusiasm deep within you:  We all have that deep burning passion in us and although life may have beaten down to embers , all it takes is a spark. So, find and be GREAT!! G ive 100% everyday : No further  explanation needed, give all you are every day H old on to those who love you : And never let them go ., no matter how rough life maybe Love will get you through it T hink positive: Negative thought is for a...

It's 2013 and I am feeling good, no scratch that I am feeling GREAT. It just kills me when a new year comes and people make all these public declarations on how they are going to be cutting off people and becoming a new person, hence the title of my blog. Truth is change is inevitable whether it is for the better or worse. You see me my transformation didn't start on January 1st, it began in February after a week long mental vacation at the local mental health facility is when I started begin to transform myself from the perception of who I should be into the reality of the person I truly am. It took a while for me to come to the realization that I was holding onto a lot of baggage from the past, grief, guilt, insecurity and when I learned to let it go, I could truly began on my life journey.  This wasn't a quick fix, I had to admit that I needed help and that I couldn't do this by myself, so I sought both mental and spir...

Ladies, why do we have to come at each others throat when it comes to a man and how come we never hold ourselves or the male accountable for the drama that we put ourselves in. So, let me break it down to you, woman to woman before you can love anyone else you have to first love yourself fully, flaws and all. I know a lot of you, are sucking your teeth and rolling your neck saying " I love ME" but truthfully look at some of the situations that you have put yourself in and then ask yourself " Do I really love ME?  If you need some help allow me to elaborate, I have a couple of situations that  I have seen over and over in 2012 that may help you answer the question.  If you agree or have been in every situation I mention  doesn't mean you are a bad person , you may love yourself this is strictly my opinion and you are more than welcomed to disagree. 1. If you fall for unavailable men : If all of your relationships start off by that man being in a relationship w...

Over this last year, I have been on a path of  self discovery which  has led me to confront some truths and fears about myself, my past and how it affects my future  I like most of us are not without fault. I have been very unapologetic about my life choices whether if they were progressive or regressive they have all brought exactly where I am right now in life.  And even though i try to live without regrets there is some pain and confusion in my past that I have held on too especially the things I have done to others. I am not a hateful or even bad person but i was always told that path to hell was paved with good intentions. So, now I am learning to forgive myself and let it go.. I love to read and I was reading this article but Dr. Phil on how forgiving yourself leads to your best life and he even offers steps, so I decided to share them with you ... Step One: Reopen your heart and mind again. When you are faced with terrible pain, your h...

So, I really get frustrated when I hear friends and family talk bad about my last boyfriend in fact he was probably one of my only real boyfriends, my first love to be exact. Don’t get it twisted we went through some things but I don’t like when people blame others for my decisions and actions. I can’t lie and say being in that relationship may have persuaded my perception of things but ultimately it was my decision. This leads me to this general question, “Whose To Blame?????” I always here people and see status updates about how somebody is doing something to someone else, or the world is doing something to you but what I never here is what you are doing to provoke these attacks or a plan to prevent them. We as a people because I use to do it to , are always looking for someone or something thing to blame but we never truly take accountability for our own actions and the state that those actions has left our lives. If you were to look at any situation in your life and wer...

I can honestly admit now anyway that one of my biggest faults and the thing that keeps me from truly attaining all of my goals is that I tend to compare myself and my accomplishments to others. Even to this day it's a struggle but I understand that what's for me is for me and I have learn to accept me for who I am and allow myself to GREAT. I was reading an article online that address the same issues and I wanted to share with you, 1. You are one of a kind. There is literally no one walking this earth quite like you. 2. Life isn’t a competition so pursue what makes you happy in a pace that you are comfortable with. 3. Remind yourself of how wonderful you are. 4. Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem to others. 5. Realize that you won’t always be the best at everything and that’s okay. Try focusing on beating your own best score instead of someone else’s, it will help measure your growth in a healthy way. 6. Be grateful for what you do have and...