Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

Sometimes I close my eyes and wonder exactly what my life would be like if all of my dreams came true. I mean I am not complaining my life is really not that bad but I wonder how much different it would be if I could truly cast my fears to the side and truly jumped into my dreams head first. I want to be an author,motivational speaker,life counselor,CEO of non profit organization. I don't know why I can't overcome these fears I mean I almost died before my 18th birthday that should have catapulted me into living my dreams but it did the opposite. Ever since my mom died I have taken so much upon myself and I haven't been able to let go but I'm ready to,  I have to because I can't continue  to live in the shadows of my own dreams. Don't get me twisted I have accomplished some GREAT things but I know that I could be so much MORE. I was created to be great and I have to cast my fears to the side and take that leap of faith. I deserve happiness I want live out god...

Having moment of weakness or uncertainty does not make you weak or less of an believer. It just makes you human. Sometimes I feel like my soul, my essence were drafted in this battle between the young lady I am and the grown woman I want to be. Don't get me twisted I appreciate all that I have, all that I have accomplished and even the mistakes that I have made. I thought for awhile I thought I was truly happy but then I realize in order to be happy I had to have something happenings and that's when the battle ensued. About two months ago I got sick and I thought it was just another asthma episode but it was so much more, I was drowned in a sea of medical diagnosis and medications that I could  pronounce only because I studied medical books as a child. I believe that is when the battle began when I was face to face with my own mortality (no worries I have nothing fatal) but it made me realize that my life was missing something. So, I set out on the mission for a 360 change...

No one can  prepare you for heart break and no matter how hard you try to fight it or find a work around when your heart breaks it hurts. When your heart breaks it also stirs up insecurities that you have about yourself, past painful relationships and even loneliness. Some of us want to believe that its not us its their lost and some of us believe that we are the reason for the pain. But truthfully, you never know what it was that caused you and that person to separate. But you can allow that pain to stop you from living. You may wonder what makes me an authority on broken hearts and truthfully I am not. But I have had my heart broken recently and I felt inferior, I felt ashamed,lonely, confused and hurt. I mean a part of me even wanted to even try and get him back and even went as far as having sex with him. But sex ain't love but then I saw him the real him. Most time when we are in love we see the person we want but not who that person really is. So, the true test of love is w...

Although hard and confusing at times, moving on is a integral part of growing up and last ten years my life has been going in the same destructive cycle. I wish I could say it was my idea to end it but it was more of a crash and burn. But as painful as it maybe I had to come to grips with my present,let go of my past and move on to my future. Moving on for me consisted of 1. Embrace the pain and confront the confusion but stop running 2. Let it go even though it maybe hard the only way to move on is to let it go, forgive and say farewell 3. Look for the lesson. Everything that we do in life has the potential to be an learning experience all you have to do is open yourself up to the possibility. 4. MOVE !! I moved on from bad relationships by slowly eliminating all communications and I moved my residence. Just move, get up and physically move yourself and then you can move the state of your mind. Hope this helps

Sometime the hardest thing for a person to do is to look in the mirror. I'm not talking the mirror that you have on your bathroom wall but the mirror that reflects the truth of who you are. I heard this song from lil wayne it encouraged me to take a good look in the mirror to see who you really are and what you want from your life. At times we get so caught up in trying to be what others think us to be or what they want us to be. So,  this is my challenge to you take a DEEP look in the mirror, tell what do you see? Watch "Lil Wayne - Mirror ft. Bruno Mars" on YouTube

I was watching a sermon by T.D Jakes about a month ago on how in order for us to live out the calling that GOD has placed on our lives that we have to let go of some the baggage that's holding us back. From that sermon I picked up on 4 essential bags that I think that majority of people are holding on to but need to LET GO ... 1. SIN : Whether they be past sins or present sins, we all have sinned and fallen short but we can't allow ourselves to become slaves to those past mistakes. Ask forgiveness from your higher power, ask forgiveness of the people that you may have hurt and lastly forgive yourself. 2. GUILT: This one bag alone can strangle  the life out of you if you let it. We all at one point or another pick up the guilt bag,  the things that you wish you hadn't done or said but you did anyway. I carried my guilt with me and through life kept putting more into it until one day it almost took me out. That's when I decided to get rid of this bag, we are not pe...

Sometimes I close my eyes and wonder exactly what my life would be like if all my dreams instantly came true. Don't get me wrong I am in no way complaining my life is not bad at all and I truly appreciate all that I have but I do wonder how much different it would be if I could just cast my fears to the side and jump into my dreams head first. I want to be an  Director of my own non profit,  a author, a motivational speaker,a life counselor, a mother, and a wife. But most importantly I just want to find lasting joy. i don't know why I can't overcome these fears I mean almost died before my 18th birthday having a second chance at life should have catapulted me into living my dreams without fear but it did the opposite.  Every since my mom died I have taken so much upon myself and I haven't been able to release the myself from it but I am ready now. I have to because I can't continue to live in the shadows of my own dreams. Don't get  me twisted I have accomplis...