Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

I was reading this article on OPRAH.COM and decided that I wanted to share it with all of you 1. Get Beyond Denial As long as you're thinking, "That shouldn't have happened or I shouldn't have done that," you're locked in a struggle against reality. Many people pour years of energy into useless "shouldn't haves." The angry ones endlessly repeat that their ex-spouses shouldn't have left them, their parents shouldn't have overfed them, or their bosses shouldn't have made them wear uncomfortable chipmunk costumes in 90-degree heat. Even drearier are the sad ones, who forever drone some version of "If only." If only they'd married Sebastian, or gotten that promotion, or heeded the label's advice not to operate heavy machinery, they would be happy campers instead of les misérables . I call this unproductive regret. People use it to avoid scary or difficult action; instead of telling the story of the past in...

The one thing that I distaste more than anything and that is DRAMA because to much of it becomes unhealthy. So, I have comprised a list of seven simple rules to make your life less drama free. 1. Never Hate : I don't even use the word because "HATE" is just like poison although it may take some time eventually consuming it even in the smallest amounts can be proven fatal. If you harbor hate towards someone my suggestion to you would be to forgive them, forgive yourself and move on because if you don't  you will end up paying for it in the end. 2. Live Simply: Somewhere a person worth got misconstrued with how much stuff a person has or has going on. Sometimes a busy or full ife doesn't mean it's the best life for you. I at times have a lot on my calendar but I always make time for the simple things like playing with my niece or writing my blogs. Most things that bring you the most joy are free of charge. 3. Expect Little : Life doesn't not owe u...

When I sit down and look at my life especially the last five years I don't know if i want to laugh or cry, so I decided to write about. You see I have been living in my own hell for the last five years of my life, afraid, ashamed, lonely and with this nagging fear of not ever being worthy.  But I call it  my own hell because I never spoke on it, I just dealt with it, it's kind of my life's philosophy I don't like confrontation which is why  some people who know me might think  it is hard to believe but I don't  but I do BLOW UP !!  The only reason why I even do that is because sometimes I hold so much in that I explode. But in February the opposite happened I IMPLODED and I almost lost the person who should of meant the most to me, MYSELF. About a week before Valentine's Day. I Destiny Cammack checked myself into the Behavioral Unit ( Crazy house) because I had simply reached a point in my life where I couldn't fine my way back. I suffered from a ment...

I know, I know just by the title alone you probably expecting me to go in on dude but I wont , I mean I could but I wont it's not that kind of post and I've already given him to much of my time. So, this post is just putting the relationship to bed. When I was younger I promised myself one thing and that was no matter how bad a relationship ended that I would never be bitter or broken. I can honestly say although at times it was hard, after this break up I am not broken or bitter, I am actually wiser and stronger. After being childhood sweethearts and going through so much together my ex decided that it would be best to go our separate ways but he still wants to be friends. Ladies, I am going to tell you from personal experience unless you never truly had feelings for him or you are a way better woman then I would ever be it's impossible to friends with someone right after the breakup. The reason being is because you deprive yourself of the proper healing process and you ...

Last week I was having an conversation with my younger cousin and just like most girls do we got on the subject of various types of females.  Me personally I don't judge people for what they do but for who they are but in the case of a Down for Whateva (DFWC) chic basically what you do is directly linked to who you are. So let me define a DFWC for those of you who do not know, a DFWC is the type of girl and yes I said girl because a DFWC is not quire a woman. But a DFWC  would do anything  in order to get attention from the opposite sex. You know the girl that I am talking about the ones that I am talking about they have  half naked pictures posted all on their facebook page, statuses about the multiple sexual encounter, and not afraid to make public that if given a change and his money is right that she will try to sleep with your man, that is a down for whateva chic. A DFWC is also over ally confident about thier looks and I am not saying that they are all ugly...

I really have been trying to hold my tongue but I wouldn't be me if I didn't bring things to the forefront of people's mind. You see I understand that I live my life by a different code than most and I truly thank GOD for blessing me with parents like Iris Gaines and Vinson Cammack because they instilled me the value of hard work and that my worth can't be measured in currency  because I am PRICELESS.  If you know me then you know that I have been working within the non profit  community for about ten years now and I have been everything from a HIV/AIDS peer educatator to Director of my own non profit "DESTINED TO CREATE PEACE SERVICES". I had accomplished more and lost more by the age of eightteen than most people will in a life time. But I am still standing, so it baffles me when I hear  and read status updates of young people with no aspirations, no ambiton and even worse older people who do not care about the youth.  Truly, what is the world...

You see there is a big problem that spreading amongst young ladies where they think that by having a man's child then that's how you keep that man. I have to just shake my head on that one because it has to be the dumbest thing anyone has ever thought of. Do you honestly think that if that man does not love you that a kid will make him stay. You see a real man will take care of his responsibilities and he will love and be obligated to his child but that does not mean he is obligated to you boo. How many times must I address this;  ladies you have to think with what's between your ears and not between your leg. Having a baby can not be like your last resort because you are trying to save your relationship because the only person that get hurts in the end is the child. Another thing that irritates me do not use your child as a bargaining chip, if the man is taking care of his responsibilities and have moved on with another girl don't try to deprive hi...