Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

 Oh, how I love my music but this post is not about love or relationships but it's about Self. Figuring out who you are and deciding what person you want to be?  My goal everyday is to become the best version of Destiny that I can possibly be. What is your daily Goal? Who are you and How did you get here? Some of us look at where we are in life, and we may complain, gripe about how we "thought" out lives would be different? Some of us are excited that we even made it this far? But the question I am asking you is , How did you get here?  The person that you are today, how did you become that person and what are you going to do make yourself better or do you feel who you are is the best version? I know that I got you all scratching your head, like what ??? So, let me break it down for you, in order for you to become the person you want to be, the best version of yourself, from where you are TODAY ... 1. Who are you today ? : Take a good look in the mirror and def...

You should have already known that I was coming after this one but do not get it twisted, this is not going to male  basing post but I would not be me if I didn't put my personal spin on this. I love this song, and although I agree with K. Michele you can't raise any grown person whether it be male or female but I do believe that with communication, patience and love that you can't help them grow. You know I have to use my own life as an example, me and my boo, have know each other going on  15 years which is the equivalent to more than half our lives, we have seen each other through some tough times, we grew up and three years ago we grew apart but not we are back together and the relationship is better because we both understand not only where we are in life but where want to be. What I didn't understand three years ago is that  I was trying to raise a man instead of letting him come into his own manhood. You see sometimes as women and some men, we are already on ...

It's been a long time since I actually set down and wanted to write, not that I didn't have a lot to write about but because I have been so busy with trying to get this event we call "life" eight that I haven't had to time to really unpack all the thoughts in my mind. But I am BACK .. . So, if you know me or if you have read my blogs then you can see that I really try to be a good person and not that being a good person is a hard thing to do but in a society where you are more often judged then elevated at times treating others how you want to be treated can seem like an impossible task.  I see  a lot of social status about, treating people how they treat you and being cold to people and I actually found myself heading down that path. When I love regardless is it's a friendship,intimate, or family, I LOVE without conditions giving myself and all that I am to that person regardless of how they may reciprocate it but I would be lieing if I said that , lov...

If you ever really read one of my earlier posts or my book, " This is Me..", then you know that for most of my life like most people I have dealt with insecurities. So, when Beyonce's released her new album and this song was track one, I literally broke down the first time I heard it because people sometimes think that insecurity just stems from not liking what you see in the mirror but it comes from a much deeper place than that. Within in the chorus Beyonce sings, " Trying fix something but you can't fix what you can't see, it's the soul that needs a surgery".  Listening to that part alone made we want to right this this blog because I think a lot of us need to schedule an "soul surgery", mines personally took my two and a half years but I did it. I have made peace with what the source of my insecurities where which for me where part societal and part familial. I never been the girl that really cared much for societal norms in fact I ...

Q1: My family feels like I am with the wrong guy, but I don't see what they see and I love him but I feel like I am trapped living two lives one with my family and one with my man, any suggestions? There comes a time in our lives when we have to move out the family that was given to us and create our own. Let me break it down for you, your family's position on your boyfriend is based on what you tell them and what they may observe but it is not the whole of who is. You are torn because you feel like you have to give up one for the other and that;s not true, you can have both. Your family loves you and that love will never change but it is time for you to grow up and take possession of your own life. Tell your family that you want to be with this guy and if he is bad for you then you have to pick up them pieces and if they really love you, they will be right there for you whether it's heartache or happily ever after. Q2: How do you balance family, career, friends, I mea...

The one thing I stared last year and I wanted to continue and to also be stronger is my relationship with GOD. If you read or have read any of my post then you know that I am not necessarily a religious person but I am very spiritual person. So, when I ran pass this article on oprah.com , I wanted to share it with you. I hope it helps to regain or strengthen your spiritual foundation. . Recognize your Creator.  Think on this: There is a supreme power in the universe that is bigger and more powerful than your small mortal self.  This step makes you humble.   2. Seek opportunities to put more love into the world.  Strive to be a vessel of love, to fill the world with more compassion and kindness.  This step makes you loving and lovable .  3. Set aside time each day to spend in spiritual reflection and contemplation.  Dwell in the presence of the divine: Your path may be to pray, meditate, read spiritual material, take a long walk through natur...

This year has been utterly beautiful I don't even know how else to explain it, I mean I had a lot of ups and downs but sitting here in front of my computer , three days before the new year, all I can say is " THANK YOU GOD". Like I said my year was all sunshine and rainbows but it was blessed, I was blessed. I am coming out stronger, wiser, and ready to live my best days. This year I became a partner in a start up company created by me and my cousin and not only is the idea of creating something different and empowering but to also reconnect with my family, it was like  finding a twin spirit, I love my TOOT, I am appreciative and thankful for her everyday, she is the ying to my yang. I published my first book of poetry  "This is Me.." and I am preparing my next book to come out in 2015.  I have did some amazing things I can even express them all, I have also had some devastating blows but because my relationship with my higher power (GOD) , I was able to not o...