Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

You know that I love my music especially when I can relate it to some real life issues , but this song by Seyvn Streeter who by the way has an awesome EP, has  had me thinking all week mainly because I can honestly say that I have and currently in this situation. If you know me personally then you know that for as long as I have been old enough to date that I have had only  one true love in my life, however about two in a half years ago after knowing each other for most of our childhood we decided to separate which at first was very hard for me because I had grown so attached but in the end I can say that it was the best decision that we both made because it gave us both a chance to grow as adults and to see what we want out of life and more importantly to reevaluate who it is that we want to be with. So, after two in a half years of loving and hating each other and giving each other space and actually looking at what we want about eight months ago we decided to g...

Yall know how I love to bring you guys things that I feel will help you be more productive in life, I saw this article online and decided to share it with all of you ... Hope you implement some of these steps into your daily living  #1. Start spending time with the right people.  – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally. #2. Start facing your problems head on.  – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run. #3. Start being honest wi...

As I often do.. I happen to be strolling the net researching somethings for my first "relationships" seminar/ workshops  and I ran pass this  article and I wanted to share with all my babies out there who might be sabotaging their own relationships.. Here you 5 relationship Killers : Bad Habit #1: Worrying About What Other People Think Everyone wants and needs different things in their relationships. Don't get caught up in what other people want or what your friends are doing.  Concentrate on creating a relationship with your partner that works for the both of you.  Bad Habit #2: Letting Your Ego Get in the Way One of the biggest relationship mistakes is getting caught up in trying to be right in an argument. When you're focusing on proving your partner wrong and getting them to acknowledge that you're right, you lose sight of what you're really trying to do—resolve a problem. Drop your ego, and instead focus on creating a space where each of ...

It was brought to my attention that although I talk about everything else under the sun, that I really never talk about sex and intimacy. As you guys know that I often try to help by giving you personal experiences from my own life. No, this does not mean that I am virgin  or that I do not enjoy sex. So here we go... I personally believe that intimacy or the lack of it can strengthen or weaken a relationship, let's  be honest, everyone wants to feel wanted especially by the person that you love and loves you back. I think we often mistake intimacy with sex, and although that is one facet of being intimates, there levels to this shit ... lol Be Connected Intimacy in a nutshell is being close and connected to someone not just on a physical level but an emotional one as well. For example, I like stolen glances and I do not mean "staring" because that can creepy but I love it when I look up and he's looking at me or when I am getting dressed for work and I look back...

1. I am in a relationship but we never really go out, all he does is come to my place. We never really go out anywhere, it's been a year and I haven;'t met any of his family or his friends, I don't know what to feel? I am going to assume that you have read some of my post and you know that I am very strait forward and this coming from a place of love. Sweetheart, you are not in a relationship , you are available to person who truly seems to not have any real interest in you besides what you are offering. You know what to feel but you do not want to be alone but  if you honestly ask yourself, which one is wormst be alone or lonely because you are already lonely. I do not know this guy and do not condone male bashing, but my advice would be to have a conversation and real conversation about how you feel and where you stand in his life and from there make a decision that is best for you and your happiness.  2. Coach D, how do you get yourself out of a rut? The advice t...

 Oh, how I love my music but this post is not about love or relationships but it's about Self. Figuring out who you are and deciding what person you want to be?  My goal everyday is to become the best version of Destiny that I can possibly be. What is your daily Goal? Who are you and How did you get here? Some of us look at where we are in life, and we may complain, gripe about how we "thought" out lives would be different? Some of us are excited that we even made it this far? But the question I am asking you is , How did you get here?  The person that you are today, how did you become that person and what are you going to do make yourself better or do you feel who you are is the best version? I know that I got you all scratching your head, like what ??? So, let me break it down for you, in order for you to become the person you want to be, the best version of yourself, from where you are TODAY ... 1. Who are you today ? : Take a good look in the mirror and def...

You should have already known that I was coming after this one but do not get it twisted, this is not going to male  basing post but I would not be me if I didn't put my personal spin on this. I love this song, and although I agree with K. Michele you can't raise any grown person whether it be male or female but I do believe that with communication, patience and love that you can't help them grow. You know I have to use my own life as an example, me and my boo, have know each other going on  15 years which is the equivalent to more than half our lives, we have seen each other through some tough times, we grew up and three years ago we grew apart but not we are back together and the relationship is better because we both understand not only where we are in life but where want to be. What I didn't understand three years ago is that  I was trying to raise a man instead of letting him come into his own manhood. You see sometimes as women and some men, we are already on ...