Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

It is crazy because when I sit down to write tonight this was suppose to be going into my new book , but I decided to share it with all you because ," Why Not", I share everything with you all anyway. For the last two days I have been a state of semi solitude, I have been feeling under the weather, overwhelmed and exhausted but this week I think my body gave in because it knew that my mind truly needed the break.  So, I took two days to rejuvenate my mind and communicate with my higher being, God speaks to me but only when I am fully surrendered in prayer and silence. So, for two days we have been having an ongoing debate , yeah I said I was debating with God, I mean he created me he knows first hand how stubborn I am but only until about a couple of hours I go after talking to my pops, my moment of clarity came. I have never been afraid of the challenge, of the trying my hand at the impossible, my resume is flooded with accomplishments but my worst fear is not failu...

So, nornally I would do Sister to Sister during Coach's Corner but last night I kind of got causht up in the topic and I ran out of time, but I did read and respond to all of my questions but I will be posting the top two which was about the topic of "Friend".. Q.: Do you feel that length of a friendship is equal to the quality of  friendship? A. : I think that is a common misconception when it comes for friendships, I believe the "No New Friends" was taken out of context. I think that quality always outweighs longevity because sometimes we just outgrow people and as we get older our lives changes henceforth what we look for in friendship does as well. I am not saying cut off your old friends but just evaluate and make sure you have all your friends in the right "section: of your life. Q.: I have a male friend and we have been friends every since I could remember but I have recently found out that he has has intimate feelings for me for the las...

Dependent upon the relationship, breaking up could be the easiest or the most painful thing you will have to do but regardless of the situation I have created some " Break Up Commandments" : Thou shall not drunk dial/text I know that the alcohol can have us in our emotions sometimes and have us feeling like we need to get some stuff of our chest. JUST DON'T DO IT.. resist the urge to call or text your ex especially when you are intoxicated nothing good will come from it. Thou shall not backslide There was a reason why you left and contrary to the hype there is so thing as " No strings attached" sex especially between exes because there was once love there hence "strings". I know it may seem easy or safe to release that sexual tension with someone that you already know intimately. Go to the gym, take a cold shower, watch porn anything but do not fall into that sand trap. Thou shall not vent on facebook The fact that you are w...

Coach Destiny, I have a group of friends we have been friends for a very long time but i have noticed that recently we don't have the same goals and ambitions.  often time i am just bored being around them. How  do you know when you have outgrown a friendship?   Chelsea I want you first to ask yourself is there any other reason why you are so disengaged with your friends. Do you have other friends?  Why are you still friends with them?  I think that you have to self explore a little,  we all have old friends that we may not speak often and we have friends that we speak with daily. After some exploration, if you do not have anything in common with them then maybe you should move forward in life but still be friendly cause good friends are hard to come by Coach Destiny I never really see you post anything about sex but I have a sex problem . I kind of overhead my boyfriend talking to his boys and he basically said "my sex was boring". I don't...

For the month of October, I have decided to honor women who are inspiration and empowering. I have been getting mixed reviews on my decision and a lot of people want to know what is in it for me.  That skepticism is exactly why I decided to this every since I was a young girl, I use to keep a list of " stereotypes" of black women and every morning I woke, I had one main goal , DO NOT BECOME A STATISTIC. Every since I could remember I have been different I see life in a rainbow tinted glasses and I live each day to make sure every person that comes into contact with me leaves in a better place both mentally and emotionally. I challenge people to go against the grain, to challenge the status quo and make their dreams a reality. This is why, I decided to start the " I AM" woman empowerment because woman are known to for being " catty" and "back biting" but I do not believe this is true of all women and I want to honor them. I want to show the w...

I feel that in order to truly help someone , you have to become transparent and that's what I have done with this blog, with my life coaching practice with my life ... My faith , my relationship with GOD has at times been tumultuous but my faith, my purpose and the love he has for me has never been lost... GREATNESS is my birthright and it is yours as well . I share with you a piece from my journal in which I write my prayers to the man above.. Dear GOD, I come to you tonight as humbly as I know how and not just on my behalf but on behalf on anyone who is currently going though the shaking, the beating, ot the pressing in thier life. I need you to let them know that you are preparing them for GREATER. Lord, I pray for the lost souls who are crying out for attention to all the wrong people, I need you to go to them and let them know that you are still GOD and that you are still waiting for them. Let them know where worldly love my dry up and dissipate that you have a love for...

I saw this article on Oprah.com and I wanted to share it with you all... Though no one likes it, each of us will find ourselves broken at some point in our journey. When we find ourselves there, what do we do? I've been broken many times—through illness, through the loss of a job, through the derailment of a dream and most recently, through the death of my father. For all of this, I can offer a mysterious truth that life has given me: that we are stronger, gentler, more resilient and more beautiful than we imagine, and that the resource we call life is never far away. I know this because every time my heart has been shattered, I have felt certain that it could never be put back together. And every time, without exception, not only has my heart mended but it has become larger, stronger and more loving for the breaking. The mysterious and unfailing journey of how this happens is the ordinary art of staying awake. It involves the deep and continuous act of being pr...