Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

So, as social experiment on Tuesdays I allowed all of my followers on Instagram (@trcoaching) to slide into in my DM's and I got about fifty amazing questions.  I got about six questions that revolved around the topic of sex.  If you have read any my prior post then you know that I am all about relating topics to my real life. I don't speak a lot about sex because at the times I did not know how to approach the topics without giving away too much or having you guys giving me side eyes.  But through much deliberation I will start sprinkling more sex and intimacy throughout my post like I am doing today. The Cover is by Asia Major (YouTube Channel : TheAsiaMajor One of the questions I received on Tuesday asked "  What makes good sex, great sex and what kind of lover are you ? I don't think a person can honestly answer what kind of lover that they are because they can only experience what they feel but not what the other person is feeling. I would assume that ...

I absolutely love the  lifehack,org website because it is just a wealth of motivation and resources especially for someone in my profession. One thing I have been addressing a lot with my clients is how you start you day. I know there are a lot of people who don't understand the importance of your morning routine impacts your entire day. Simply, how you start is how you finish, I have picked a few morning routines that I use to turn my Blah day into a Blessed day. 1. Meditate/Pray for at least 15 mins : The first think I do when I open my eyes I thank God for the day, I pray for peace, patience and strength. I stay in silence allow God to give me my directions for the day. 2. 20 min Walk or Workout : Either or a mix of both helps me to distress from anything that I held on to from the prior day and it also gets my blood pumping. 3. Plan your day : Check you to do list and look at your calendar to make sure that you are properly prepared all that you have to do throughout ...

Wins and Losses Okay before I even get into this purpose of this blog, I am about to give a shameless plug for one of my favorite rappers Meek Mill’s new album is FIRE I mean in my opinion he has 17 hits on this album. I love an artist who grows with his music and you can honestly hear the growth. Also, if you follow Meek or heard some of his recent interviews then you can hear how he has grown.  And of course, he gives you that Meek Mill energy that gives you the instant burst energy. Okay now let’s get down to business, after listening to Meek Mill’s album all weekend it inspired me but also gave me time to reflect on my life and all the things in my life all the wins and losses and this is what lead me to this post, 1.        DON’T BE AFRAID TO CELEBRATE YOUR WIN: I know I use to think that if you celebrate your success and accomplishments then you were somehow being arrogant but as I have grown that not celebrating a win is truly a...

This post was a special request from one of my followers. If you are not familiar with this song by Kash Doll I suggest that you listen before we jump into this blog. I actually like this song mainly because when I listen to it I can hear myself on both sides of the conversation. It is almost like the older arguing with the younger me. If we are honest as women we can say that at some point even if we didn't act on we have been both  sides of this story both knowingly and unknowingly. Although, I could take this song and the underlying topics in this song I decided to give my ladies work because I have already spoke so much on side chicks versus wives. I decided to take a different route and give the ladies some tell tell signs to show if your man is " FOR EVERYBODY" 1. If when you ask him where yall stand he tells you " What's understood does not have to be explained " , that is a nice way that says I am not really ready for relationship but when I...

Hey Team : You all know how much I love music so you should know i was here for this entire Jay Z 4:44 album I  mean I could literally blog about every single song because of the significance of the music.  Jay Z's  latest album is not for entertainment but for enlightenment so only the truly mature can relate. NO SHADE LOL !! So the first track on the album is called Kill Jay-Z and the entire song is about a battle between  Ego and self this battle is something exist in all of us.  In 2016 i made my fist conscious decision to actively engage in walking my purpose which meant that in order to become the best version of myself then i had to first kill the old me. We all have things in our lives that we need to let go or kill so i have a three major things that in order to truly live your best life. 1. EGO : This has got to go it will only get in your way. Your ego will tell you not to ask for help even when your drowning.  We all have short comings we...

Happy Sunday Team: I trust that everyone had a very productive week and if not I want to share a few steps that you need to overcomer to get out of your way and push towards your purpose and prosperity. 1)       Worry or Pray but you can’t do both : Stop worrying about things that you cannot change and focus on the things that you can. Give your worries to higher power and trust in the path that is laid out for you. 2)       Be Accountable : Stop blaming other people for where you are in life because at the end of the day our decisions put us where we are but we have a choice to learn and progress or complain and stay where we are. 3)       Be realistic : Stop expecting perfection from others when you are not perfect. You cannot expect what you don’t project. 4)       Remove CAN’T from your vocabulary : No further explanation is needed just do it 5)    ...

Although I know she does not need my shameless I am telling you that if you have not heard Mary J’s new album, Strength of Woman. Then you need to listen and take notes because that album stays on repeat I must listen to it at least every other day. But that leads me to the one of my favorite song “Glow Up”. If you have ever been in relationship and the break up was not very amical then you know about the “Glow Up” that need show your ex what they have missing that the grass is not greener on the other side per se. I am by no means anti glow up but I feel that it can lead you down two paths if you are mental is not right. It can lead to growing up and becoming better or it can lead to self-destruction and I am here to show the path to latter. These are few ways to make sure that your GLOW up doesn’t BLOW in your face. 1.        Self-Love don’t Self Loathe: I know the first thing we do when we break up is ask “What is wrong with us “but truth no...

This is by far the hardest thing I must write in a while but the only way to get through is to go through. So here I go Mother’s Day this year was the hardest. You may ask how your mother has been dead for 18 years now but it still hurts but this year was different because my paternal grandmother wasn’t here. It was like a double heart break and although I spent the day with my maternal grandma my heart was still aching. I have tried since she passed away to cope to implement the tools she instilled in me on how to deal with death. Never question God and I haven’t. Trust God’s word and I have. My grandma taught me so many lessons, she has so much faith in me, in family but the one thing she never taught me was how to live with her. When she passed away I asked the question, “How do you heal your hurt, when your hero dies?”  I wish I had answer but I don’t and have been slowly spiraling that has come to a silent but emotional head on Mother’s Day.  I have going to throug...

Whispers in the dark is my new podcast that will be posted every Thursday at 9pm est. This podcast will be very different because not only will i be giving you a no ho'ds barred life lessons like always but i will be sharing my journey. 2016 was indeed my best and worst year but this podcast chronicles how i turned my tragedy into triumph.

  So, look I had to address this subject matter because it is something that I hear so often but I don’t people understand the origin or true meaning of the word.   A Ridah as defined by the Urban Dictionary is an individual that is down for whatever, this person is fearless, a Ridah would go to great lengths to achieve their goals, missions, or objective and nothing will stand in their way.   A girl who is in it for the long run no matter what. Nothing in that definition states that a Ridah is blind, dumb, stupid or a pushover. Ladies or gentleman allowing your partner to use and abuse your trust and loyalty does not make you a ride it makes you a fool.   Also, some people confuse a Ridah with a passenger so let me break it down for you.   A Ridah will be there for pushing you to be your best A passenger will push you in order to get the best that they can get from you   A Ridah will defend you public and check yo...

18 years ago today I lost the woman who gave me life ,the person I ever loved. Rest Easy Ma After eighteen years, I thought it would be easier, the pain would be a little easier to bare, but eighteen years later I still find myself peeking through the blinds at five hoping your car is out there, some days the pain is so much that it knocks me off my feet, other days I find myself reminiscing on the memories of you until I lull myself to sleep, Every year on this day I find myself stuck in time, replaying those days event trying to figure out how to get to you in time, it took me a long-time deal with my grief and to stop being angry with the man above because although your body was dead and gone I will still surrounded by your love.   I look at my siblings and see you, find ourselves saying some of the crazy shit you use to say, our mouths are so much like yours, we go from zero to one hundred quick, crazy work ethic, and unapologetic swag yeah everyone knows ...

It’s been awhile not that I have not have anything to say but I literally have not had to time to sit down and but my thoughts into words. There is a difference from being busy and working and I have been working trying to create some new opportunities for myself and the ones that I love but there is neither here or there. I am back with an arsenal of issues for us discuss. If there is a topic or an issue you would like for me to address please feel free to send it to me thecoachdestiny@gmail.com So, todays topic is all about Self- Love because I feel that is something that is missing in the world. I have experienced people who are selfish but they don’t love themselves they just guard themselves with materialistic items to make them feel complete. I see people who a searching for love in all the wrong places and people because they are know they are missing it but not knowing that the love they seek comes from within. I like most people confused things with love and I thoug...

Before we even being I want to say HAPPY NEW YEAR TEAM. I know that with faith and hard work that we can all walk in out purpose that will lead to prosperity.  So, now that the pleasantries  out of the way and we are five days in the  New Year's. How are you feeling?   Have you over looked 2016, did you reach any of your goals?  Do you feel like 2016 was good year for you? Would have you done anything differently or nah?  I always challenge all of my clients to evaluate not to see where you fall short but to ask yourself why you fell short? For example if you goal was to simply loose weight you may have lost ten pounds and then gained twenty more. Did you not accomplish you goal because you did the loose the weight but you didn't maintain the weight loss. These are a few tools that i have implemented with my clients when it come creating goals and you can utilize the same tools to create achievable resolutions for 2017..  Know what you wa...