Life Lessons With Coach Destiny

This year has been utterly beautiful I don't even know how else to explain it, I mean I had a lot of ups and downs but sitting here in front of my computer , three days before the new year, all I can say is " THANK YOU GOD". Like I said my year was all sunshine and rainbows but it was blessed, I was blessed. I am coming out stronger, wiser, and ready to live my best days. This year I became a partner in a start up company created by me and my cousin and not only is the idea of creating something different and empowering but to also reconnect with my family, it was like  finding a twin spirit, I love my TOOT, I am appreciative and thankful for her everyday, she is the ying to my yang. I published my first book of poetry  "This is Me.." and I am preparing my next book to come out in 2015.  I have did some amazing things I can even express them all, I have also had some devastating blows but because my relationship with my higher power (GOD) , I was able to not o...

First let me apologize for the long pause but I have definitely been busy and I have been writing just not blogging. We all go through something and either we cone out better or broken. I came out blessed. I truly believe that these past two years have truly been my purging season. It's a season that we must go through and some of us several of times before we get it right. I won't lie and say it was all rainbows and sun shine because it won't, I was hurting on a daily basis, I was stripped of everything that I thought was important. I was naked my soul exposed. My skeletons emptied out of my closet and. I was left to deal with the person I had neglected for the last twenty odd years: MYSELF. Like I said it took a little over two years to get to a place of peace but the first year was literally God breaking me down and bring me back towards him. This past year in a half has been a rebuilding which also has not been easy but I have accomplished some great things, started...

Doing some research for an upcoming group session, I came upon the article at Oprah.com on finding your emotional balance. I know the importance of finding your emotional peace.  I hope this helps you.. Step 1: Emotional Checkup Sit down with a calendar and ask yourself how you've been feeling over the past couple of weeks—depressed, anxious, joyful, angry? Do you seem uncharacteristically blue and lethargic? If yes, can you see a good reason for it? The questions may seem obvious, but if you don't ask them, Rosenthal says, "it's easy to shove the problem out of your mind." Next check your expectations. The big mistake people make is confusing emotional balance with happiness, says Alice Domar, PhD, director of the Mind/Body Center for Women's Health at Boston IVF and the author of Self-Nurture . "The huge number of people on Prozac in this country includes many, I think, who were experiencing life's ups and downs normally but had an expectation...

This last month in a half has been super crazy for me, I mean i was working seven days strait , I published my first book, I am still growing my life coaching practice as well as my partnership Collaboration; Partner In Grind. I have been strapped in this emotional roller coaster and i did I mention I turned 28. I would be lying if I said the last 2 years of my life have truly humbling as well a great learning experience. When I say I lost everything that I thought was important, I went from having my own place with a brand new care making 35,000 a year to living with my brother,  riding the bus and working my ass off just to get by. At first I blamed it on Satan like most of do when our lives seems to be spinning out of control but in truth it was GOD knocked me down a peg but in truth he knocked me back to me knees. Even though I was going through  that I thought was the hardest time of my life, when I look back at it now I see that GOD like the great person he is wa...

As I sit down at the Kitchen table  and I let Beyonce' flood through my ears, I am thirty minutes away from my 28th birthday, it is crazy because there was a time that I didn't beleive that I would live to see 28 let alone would have accomplished so much. If you would have told me that I would be where I am right now in life, I would not have believed you, I would have straight called you a "liar" but I want to take time to thank GOD, my family and everyone that I love for not giving up on me even when I had counted myself out, you all never lost faith in ME. So, here I am , READY FOR THE WORLD and all it has to offer me, I am not turning back or around. When I am done, all I want is for the people I leave behind to say " She lived a great life".  I have so many dreams that I had given up on that I have went back and accomplished and so many yet to still dream. I am not perfect and I will never be but I will always give my all, I will leave my mark on this...

If you have been following my blog then you that I am a very spiritual person and I have been listening to this song by Deitrick Haddon called "Have Your Way", its an a real old gospel song that he has retweeked but if you have ever taken the time to listen to the words of the song, then you can truly see how powerful the surrender can be and also how we often we get the blessing that we forget who blessed us. I could type a 100 different points from this song but instead I am posting in video in hopes that it will minister to your soul and help you to just allow God (or your higher power) to use you because it is the only way that you will get to where you want to be in life.

"This Is Me.." is a collection of poetry the chronicles my life from childhood to adulthood. This book has truly been a life time in the making, I discovered the healing powers of writing when I was young girl being called on to provide words of peace and encouragement at family funerals and functions. I embraced the healing powers of words and writing became like therapy to me. Making the decision to publish this book was a really hard one because although I devote my life to helping others and I am now a pretty open person, this book digs deep into my issue's with insecurity,  my family relationship, my personal relationships, my faith and relationship with God. I not only pulled stories from my own life but from the lives of others that impacted me. It took a lot of prayer to get me to the point where I can truly bare myself entirely to anyone who wants to read and I am not doing for the money or fame, I am doing it because I spent so much of my life, not living...

So, I have been having this on my mind for a while and although I love social media it is how I spread the word about my business, share photos and them crazy reposts that I am known for but  what I do not like about it theses attention  games that people play on them. I always hated ideas of even pageants because you give someone a number which is always been borating to me but on Facebook, instagram, etc. you see people games like “Smash or Pass”, “Date, maybe, pass, ““TBH my first impression of you”. It makes me feel sad that people are actually turning to other people that they may not even know for acceptance, approval or just plain attention. What has the world come to where my value is placed on a picture where people decide whether or not they would like to have sex with me or not. I mean really let’s be honest for most guys and some girls, it really doesn’t even matter what you look like because everyone one looks the same in the dark. But the fact that we ...

INSECURITY IS A VERY REAL SUBJECT THAT AFFECTS EVERYONE AT ONE POINT IN HIS OR HER LIVES. SOME GROW OUT OF IT, SOME GROW INTO IT AND SOME HURT THEMSELVES TRYING TO PRETEND LIKE IT DOESN'T EXIST. THE PURPOSE OF THE CROOKED SMILEZ CAMPAIGN IS TO HELP PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND WHO THEY ARE AND THE WAY THEY LOOK IS ENOUGH.  THIS IS A SELF LOVE CAMPAIGN. WE WANT TO HEAR YOUR STORY. IF YOU HAVE A STORY, A POEM, A SONG, A VIDEO CLIP, A PICTURE OF HOW YOU OVER CAME YOUR INSECURITY, WE WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU. WE WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO TELL US ABOUT YOUR JOURNEY TO GOOD SELF ESTEEM.  WE WILL ALSO BE POSTING YOUR STORIES ON ALL OF OUR SOCIAL MEDIA, PUBLIC ACCESS OUTLET TO GET THE WORD OUT. WE ALSO WANT TO HEAR FROM THOSE WHO MAY NOT HAVE COMPLETED THEIR JOURNEY AND THE AFFECT THAT BEING INSECURE HAS ON THEIR LIVES, RELATIONSHIPS, ETC. WE WANT TO HELP YOU. EVERYONE WHO PARTICIPATES IN THIS SELF LOVE CAMPAIGN WILL BE OFFERED ONE FREE 2 HOUR SESSION WITH COACH DEST...

If you have been keeping up with me and my movements I do apologize I have been slacking on my posts but I have been extremely busy building my empire with my business partner but I have a ton of things that I want to speak on . I see a lot of people trying to get ahead in life and I applaud that but what I don't appreciate is the lack of SUPPORT. Personally, if you are doing something and it is different but you are good at what you do then I APPLAUD you and I wish you much success. But what I truly despise is people who are unhappy in their current life situation so they make it their mission to try to discourage others.  My answer to them is this " Respect it or Check it.". You don't have to like me or even like what I am doing but refuse to allow others to poison your dreams. I have identified a few tell tell signs of these "dream killers" : * People who words don't match there actions, they say they are supporting you but you haven't see...

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As you all know that I draw inspiration for various places but I am also a fan of Oprah's Life class, if you have never watched I strongly suggest it. I also like to do the work because it helps me with my clients. Today I am going to be sharing with you a tool that you can use to help you become a star in your own life. 1. Write down the 10 things about yourself that you try to hide from others, and be honest. 2 Dr. Phil wants you to think about the choices you can make to create a positive outcome. What is it that you're doing that's working? 3 What do you need to stop doing that's getting in the way of what you want? 4 What do you need to start doing that will empower you to move forward? 5 Dr. Phil has seven key strategies for attaining your goal. Strategy #1: Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors. (Example: My goal is to return to college and earn a degree.) Complete this sentenc...

Free yourself from negative people Let go of those who are already gone Give people that you dont know a far chance Show everyone kindness and respect Accept people just the way they are Encourage others and cheet for them  Be your imperfectly perfect self Forgive people and move foward Do little thinhs everyday for others Always be loyal Stay in better touch with those who matter to you Keep Promises and tell the truth give what you want to recieve Say what you mean and mean what you say Allow others to make their own decisions Talk a little less and listen more Leave petty arguments alone Pay attention to your relationship with yourself Pay attention to who your real friends are Ignore hurtful unconstructive commentary

Love and accept yourself Who is going to love your better. In order for you to step into your calling, you first you have to not only who you  are but you have to love and accept yourself for all that you are, Feel connected and not alone Relationships are a very important part in life because we all need to be connected to something or someone. So rebuild those old relationships that you let slip away and create new ones. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, don’t allow yourself to be lonely. Know what you want out of life What's s GPS without a destination, know what your purpose is in life and GO FOR IT, remember that failure is not the end it is just the beginning of a new journey. Have a healthy relationship with money Learn to budget and to save, the best way to have a healthy relationship with money is to first have an healthy relationship with yourself most of the time we ...

The one fundamental thing that all people need in order to survive is " communication", so it really bothers me when I see and listen to people who are in their mid twenties , late thirties and still have a hard time to communicating So, I have a few tips for better communication   1. " Know what you want to say" : The most important thing in any conversation is actually getting the opportunity to say exactly what it is that you want to say but before you even get ready to open your mouth , do a mental rehearsal of what you are going to express just to make sure that it makes sense to you before you share it verbally. 2. " Talk too not at " : I use to have a real problem with this in the middle of the conversation it sounds more like a monologue than a conversation because I wasn't allowing the other person enough to time to absorb the information and respond if needed. So , don't talk at a person give them time to respond, slow it down a...

Now for me this has been an on going discussion between me and my friends about how some females don't play their role within a relationship. The two roles that often come into question are Wifey Vs. Side Piece. So,I did a little digging and found my way unto urban dictionary.com, to look up  these two words.  According to urban dictionary;  wifey by definition is A woman that you treat right, respect and feel good having her as your girl.  The definition of  Side line hoe or side piece is Being a mistress, or just a girlfriend on the side. So in order to clarify the situation for some young ladies who may be a "Side Piece" trying to play a " Wifey" role. If this man wants nothing to do with you, then you're a side piece.  If the only time that he comes around is if he want to "cut"  then you are a side piece, If you allow this man to treat you with no respect, and he treats your emotions like a welcome mat that he wipes his feet on then I...

These were my top 4 picks of the night, if you submitted a question I will respond within the next 24 hours. Don;t forget to submit your questions to truerevelationscoaching@outlook.com Q: My girl has this thing where as she likes to hook her friends up with my friends and honestly i don't like it, I think it is cause for more drama. What do you think? A: Communication is most important when it comes to this situation because honestly her heart is in the right place, I think without knowing her. I was that way at one point, you are so in love that you want your friends to feel what you feel but she has to realize that y'all relationship is unique to y'all two. So, sit her down , tell her how you feel but you know her heart is in the right place but everyone has to find love for themselves. Q: I want my ex back, I am man enough  to admit that I did some things in the past that were cowardly because I wasn't mentally ready for the commitment but now I am ready d...

Doubting yourself This is one of the self destructive things that you can do to yourself because when you doubt yourself whatever it is that you want out of life will never happen because you don’t have the faith needed to get it don. Negative thinking Negativity is poison and it poison everything and everyone around you. So, you have to be caution on who you allow into your life and the thoughts you allow into your mind. Fear of failure The only thing that beats a failure is a TRY, my dad told me that like every day when I was growing up and now I fully understand what it means, that failure is not a destination it is a learning point so there is no need to be afraid of more information because it will make you better in the end Destructive Relationships One of the hardest things for people including myself is to pull away when people are sucking the life from us and eventually it w...

Q: Recently me and one of my closest friends just stopped talking, she kind of betrayed me and I decided to not deal with her anymore but at the same time I still have some things on my chest, what should i do? A: Do you still have her contact information, I would reach out to her and have a real sit down and just air it out. But I do caution you this, it has to be two sided so you also have to give her a chance to clear her chest as well. I did it once with an old friend and at the end of the convo we decided that it wasn't worth trying to rebuild the trust but we could at least be civil. I mean we all have at least two friends that are fun to hang out with but we don't share secrets with.  Q: I just read your last post about 9 steps to a better life but my question to you is how important is it to have a support team and can you make it without one? A: I think that having a support team around you could truly make your journey smoother but like...

I saw this posting from a church bible study and I after studying the word and implementing my own urban break down mixed with my life coaching techniques, I am taking from the biblical to the masses because although I believe everyone should believe in someone higher I refuse to push my beliefs onto others, I want to bring people to GOD  but not by pushing but by example. You must choose  : It comes a time in all of our lives that we have to choose what we want to do with our lives, I call it the crossroads where we all stand and have to decide whether we Let Life Happen to Us or If we settle for what life has given us. Your dream and your calling need to be #1 priority : I know that life can be filled with so much other obstacles, I mean sometimes I look at my own to do list and things that I want to do , need to do and I wonder how , will, when will I do it all. But when you make the decision to pursue your calling that has to be the top of of...

Q: I think that I am a very ambitious man but my girl does not support me which makes it harder follow my dreams, how can I tell her that she is killing my dreams? A: You just sit her down and tell her because having a strong support system around you while you are trying to pursue your dreams is a must and if she doesn't believe in you, then exactly where is the relationship going. So, I would suggest that you guys have a conversation and you to be honest. Q:My ex girl said that I had a problem with compromising and today my momma said the same thing, so how do I learn to be more compromising? A: First, you have to realize that you are not the center of the universe and that life will not go your way. You may not want to hear this but learning how to compromise comes with just growing up and becoming an adult. Especially in relationships there is a lot of give and take  and until you learn to do that you will have a lot of ex girls. Q: I read your blog ...

Q: I have a friend actually she is my best friend but the last couple of months, we have drifted apart, I mean it is like we are going in two seperate directions with our lives, we hang with different people, we put value on different things. How can I still call her my best friend? A: If you had one person outside of family, that you could call to save your life, would it be her? Answer that question and that will let you know where you stand in the friendship  We sometimes feel that we have personal ownership over our friends that they have to call us everyday, give us a daily play by play of their lives for our approval but that's not how true friendship should work. Me and my bestie spent most of our teenage years up to our early twenties being inseparable and then as we began to grow into women we changed. She likes corporate work and aspires to become a full figure model, I love non profit work and I am a life coach, We lead very...

Well if you know me then you that music is a major influence on my life and it often inspires me to help empower you. Now, my girl Kelly Rowland came out with this song " Dirty Laundry" and regardless of how you feel about the words are powerful and it led me to the topic of domestic violence. So.let's do this dirty laundry . I like most girls gag at the thought of being in an abusive relationship, we say things like " I wish he would put his hands on me" but truth is no matter how strong you may think you are, your true strength will never be tested until you are the one in the ring. One out of three women will be involved in an abusive relationship in there lifetime and sad thing is that most want know it because he will never leave a physical mark but emotionally you will be battered. Strength has no bearings when it comes to abuse, there are several reasons why women succumb to abuse; low self-esteem, an abusive upbringing, or a million others reasons bu...

I  believe  in being completely honest with myself, my family and my audience. This is an entry that I tweeked from my own online journal and it is also a section in book I am writing called  " Whispers in the dark " which  chronicles  my journey from a broken depressed young girl to a happy life loving young woman that I am today but I still have bad days.  There comes a time in everyone life where they will have to make a decision. Well, about a month ago I had my gallbladder removed and the surgery had some complications when it came to the breathing tube due some scar tissue from a previous surgery.  It took a while to admit this but that scared me because that surgery prior took my voice, I walked around for a year with a tube in my throat and for a girl that was already in secure that pushed me over the edge and retreated into the darkness and although I didn’t know it then I can see it now.  So, since the surgery I...

Hey Guys I apologize for the delay but I spent the night in the emergency room due a summertime cold I just can not shake. But here we go ... Q:  So, I am in a relationship but here lately I find myself thinking a lot about my ex, I mean we were together for a long time but here lately I feel like drawn to her. But with my new girl its easy, she is okay with her life and where it is by ex was always dreaming, wanted to do so much. I don't know what to do ? A: I think the question you have to ask yourself is . " Why did you leave?". I think most people if they were honest would say that want an easy life, so if I am right I think you left your ex because things wont easy. But now you have had some time by yourself to grow and now you realize that the best things don't come easy. I think you need to take some time and figure out what you want out of life and what kind of woman will help you get there.  Q: I feel like my life is falling apart all around, how com...